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New to Group - Kicked out our 19 year old son (only child) today
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 556816" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>BKS,</p><p></p><p>You wrote my story. Except for the fact that my difficult child went to private schools just until 9th grade and we started locking up our valuables long before she could do too much damage our stories are the same. We too involved her in good, healthy activities all through her life and were involved parents every step of the way. We gave our daughter a choice when she was 19 of either finding another place to live or going to rehab. She chose rehab and was there for 60 days plus 5 weeks outpatient. She came back home and relapsed. We kicked her out again. She lived with druggie neighbors for 6 weeks and begged to come home. We said no, but that we would support her going to a sober house. She did that and was in recovery about 6 months before she left and relapsed again. Today she is 21 and living on her own in an apartment in a difficult part of town, on food stamps, and barely getting by. </p><p></p><p>We learned enough in parent group at rehab to know that we can never let her come back home. She has to do this on her own. She was arrested last week for shoplifting and she is involved with many people that we would never choose to have for her friends. She lives on the edge, loves risky behaviors, and we just cannot live like that any longer. I made myself sick with worry about her future and spent every waking moment obsessing over whether we should rescue her or not. I couldn't do it anymore.</p><p></p><p>This journey that you are on is not easy. There will be times when you wonder whether you are doing the right thing. It helps to have support of other parents who are in a similar situation. You can make his going to rehab as a condition to his returning home if that ever comes up. I know our daughter is still smoking pot and drinking and she has lost jobs and done some very risky things because of it, but she has the tools to get straightened out now because of rehab so it was not all lost. </p><p></p><p>There are so many young people who are ruining their lives over drugs and alcohol. They think everyone does it so they will be fine. It will catch up with them, but it's so hard to get young people to have enough life experiences to want to change this early.</p><p></p><p>We have a substance abuse forum on the board called "Substance Abuse". You may want to go read some of those stories and join in the conversation over there. We have found the more support we can have the better we make it through life with a substance abuser.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 556816, member: 59"] BKS, You wrote my story. Except for the fact that my difficult child went to private schools just until 9th grade and we started locking up our valuables long before she could do too much damage our stories are the same. We too involved her in good, healthy activities all through her life and were involved parents every step of the way. We gave our daughter a choice when she was 19 of either finding another place to live or going to rehab. She chose rehab and was there for 60 days plus 5 weeks outpatient. She came back home and relapsed. We kicked her out again. She lived with druggie neighbors for 6 weeks and begged to come home. We said no, but that we would support her going to a sober house. She did that and was in recovery about 6 months before she left and relapsed again. Today she is 21 and living on her own in an apartment in a difficult part of town, on food stamps, and barely getting by. We learned enough in parent group at rehab to know that we can never let her come back home. She has to do this on her own. She was arrested last week for shoplifting and she is involved with many people that we would never choose to have for her friends. She lives on the edge, loves risky behaviors, and we just cannot live like that any longer. I made myself sick with worry about her future and spent every waking moment obsessing over whether we should rescue her or not. I couldn't do it anymore. This journey that you are on is not easy. There will be times when you wonder whether you are doing the right thing. It helps to have support of other parents who are in a similar situation. You can make his going to rehab as a condition to his returning home if that ever comes up. I know our daughter is still smoking pot and drinking and she has lost jobs and done some very risky things because of it, but she has the tools to get straightened out now because of rehab so it was not all lost. There are so many young people who are ruining their lives over drugs and alcohol. They think everyone does it so they will be fine. It will catch up with them, but it's so hard to get young people to have enough life experiences to want to change this early. We have a substance abuse forum on the board called "Substance Abuse". You may want to go read some of those stories and join in the conversation over there. We have found the more support we can have the better we make it through life with a substance abuser. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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