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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 192802" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p>it is not easy , it is a process but when we become more emotionally empowered and see things in a different light , we cope better and become a source of joy happiness , music , dance , hope etc - it is so important that your spouse sees that you are coping and happy , it relaxes and one stops looking for the quick fix or consequence that will do the trick. We have to look beyond the big incidents , meltdowns , ride them out and get back on track. The important stuff is the chatting , dialog , the dynamic that you would have with a friend because we when talk or rather listen and direct conversations with questions we promote so many skills , perpective taking and empathy etc and of course build relationship and trust. </p><p>check the video clips here <a href="http://www.naomialdort.com/lectures.html" target="_blank">http://www.naomialdort.com/lectures.html</a> - based a lot on the The Work - Byron Katie <a href="http://www.thework.com/index.asp" target="_blank">http://www.thework.com/index.asp</a></p><p></p><p>The work for us is not to make war on reality . When we accept reality , we become emotionally liberated to be creative ' working with our children'. Working with children in my humble opinion means understanding how they perceive the world , how they perceive our responses, we are dealing with perceptions. </p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 192802, member: 10"] Hi, it is not easy , it is a process but when we become more emotionally empowered and see things in a different light , we cope better and become a source of joy happiness , music , dance , hope etc - it is so important that your spouse sees that you are coping and happy , it relaxes and one stops looking for the quick fix or consequence that will do the trick. We have to look beyond the big incidents , meltdowns , ride them out and get back on track. The important stuff is the chatting , dialog , the dynamic that you would have with a friend because we when talk or rather listen and direct conversations with questions we promote so many skills , perpective taking and empathy etc and of course build relationship and trust. check the video clips here [url]http://www.naomialdort.com/lectures.html[/url] - based a lot on the The Work - Byron Katie [url]http://www.thework.com/index.asp[/url] The work for us is not to make war on reality . When we accept reality , we become emotionally liberated to be creative ' working with our children'. Working with children in my humble opinion means understanding how they perceive the world , how they perceive our responses, we are dealing with perceptions. Allan [/QUOTE]
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