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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 494702" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi and huge hugs. This sounds like a very very broken child.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for him and for you. The kinds of things you describe are symptoms of full blown Reactive Attachment Disorder, though of course we dont know him or his full story and are not professionals who diagnoise that kind of thing, just from experience and to offer you some insight (you said you wanted to know why he thinks this way) for why it MIght be happening.</p><p></p><p>Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is often talked about in context of adoption but it can happen with any human who has any kind of disruption to his normal bonding time...the time when we learn fundamentally trust and love others, between birth and three (and some say older... things that happen with older kids often do cause serious issues too, but if there is a basic developmental attachment that had taken place at some time then therapy can be a little easier).</p><p></p><p>See what you think:</p><p></p><p><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactive_attachment_disorder" target="_blank">Reactive attachment disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia</a></p><p></p><p>It takes a very different kind of therapy and some research to find those who can do it. It often takes residential care because these folks do better without the pressure to have to bond and feel the perceived rejection they have in their hearts. They can actually sometimes do really well in an out of family placement because they can keep what they fear could be potentially the most hurtful thing ever .... the possibility of rejection from those who love them most.... further away. Not in their every day life.</p><p></p><p></p><p>You would still parent, but in a different way. many of us may face this or already are facing this with our kids. it is hard and will be tough to wrap your heads around maybe....but ask a million questions. It is perhaps your biggest shot at help for him. he needs professionals who understand the serious inability to connect with the feelings of other human beings. The level of deep rage and hurt they feel inside. There are people out there who get it. It is worth a try! You seem like a truly caring and loving person, he is blessed to have you.</p><p></p><p></p><p>you do not have any more pets do you??? HUGS, Buddy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 494702, member: 12886"] Hi and huge hugs. This sounds like a very very broken child. I am so sorry for him and for you. The kinds of things you describe are symptoms of full blown Reactive Attachment Disorder, though of course we dont know him or his full story and are not professionals who diagnoise that kind of thing, just from experience and to offer you some insight (you said you wanted to know why he thinks this way) for why it MIght be happening. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is often talked about in context of adoption but it can happen with any human who has any kind of disruption to his normal bonding time...the time when we learn fundamentally trust and love others, between birth and three (and some say older... things that happen with older kids often do cause serious issues too, but if there is a basic developmental attachment that had taken place at some time then therapy can be a little easier). See what you think: [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactive_attachment_disorder']Reactive attachment disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia[/URL] It takes a very different kind of therapy and some research to find those who can do it. It often takes residential care because these folks do better without the pressure to have to bond and feel the perceived rejection they have in their hearts. They can actually sometimes do really well in an out of family placement because they can keep what they fear could be potentially the most hurtful thing ever .... the possibility of rejection from those who love them most.... further away. Not in their every day life. You would still parent, but in a different way. many of us may face this or already are facing this with our kids. it is hard and will be tough to wrap your heads around maybe....but ask a million questions. It is perhaps your biggest shot at help for him. he needs professionals who understand the serious inability to connect with the feelings of other human beings. The level of deep rage and hurt they feel inside. There are people out there who get it. It is worth a try! You seem like a truly caring and loving person, he is blessed to have you. you do not have any more pets do you??? HUGS, Buddy [/QUOTE]
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