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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 378375" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">Ditto everything klmno said about reading through the Parent Emeritus board posts. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">My first thought as I read through your post was that everyone else is running around bending over backwards to help this young man attain at the very least his HS Diploma. And my next thought was:</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">What is HE doing to help himself? Apparently, NOTHING. Stop doing for him. Just stop right this second. Let him land on his behind and while he's scratching his head in wonder, perhaps he will come up with a plan for himself. You cannot save him from himself. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">I feel bad that he's had so many people to choose from, to sponge off of. It's too bad you all couldn't have come up with a solid response when he asks for help or a couch to crash on, but it is what it is and he probably wouldn't have been cooperative anyway. He KNOWS, trust me, he knows what the right thing to do is. He KNOWS all you've done for him and he KNOWS that in order to achieve even the smallest of goals, he needs to struggle a bit and figure out how to reach it on his own. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">That said, it's easier said than done, I totally understand, we all do. Honestly, read through some of the posts on all of the boards, in particular, read the signatures as many of them tell a bigger story than the actual post. Once you learn where some of the parents are coming from with their kids (young and old), how far they have come and what they have learned and what they are doing today, it will be helpful for you - it may help you to make a resolution for yourself. It may just help you to know that you're not alone in this. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">You may read about a particular resource you didn't know about which may be helpful for YOU. That's right, YOU. At his age and at this stage and with other children in the home, you need to be focusing on you and your behaviors. Again, it's difficult. Keep coming back, keep reading and posting. Sending many gentle hugs.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 378375, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]Ditto everything klmno said about reading through the Parent Emeritus board posts. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]My first thought as I read through your post was that everyone else is running around bending over backwards to help this young man attain at the very least his HS Diploma. And my next thought was:[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]What is HE doing to help himself? Apparently, NOTHING. Stop doing for him. Just stop right this second. Let him land on his behind and while he's scratching his head in wonder, perhaps he will come up with a plan for himself. You cannot save him from himself. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]I feel bad that he's had so many people to choose from, to sponge off of. It's too bad you all couldn't have come up with a solid response when he asks for help or a couch to crash on, but it is what it is and he probably wouldn't have been cooperative anyway. He KNOWS, trust me, he knows what the right thing to do is. He KNOWS all you've done for him and he KNOWS that in order to achieve even the smallest of goals, he needs to struggle a bit and figure out how to reach it on his own. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]That said, it's easier said than done, I totally understand, we all do. Honestly, read through some of the posts on all of the boards, in particular, read the signatures as many of them tell a bigger story than the actual post. Once you learn where some of the parents are coming from with their kids (young and old), how far they have come and what they have learned and what they are doing today, it will be helpful for you - it may help you to make a resolution for yourself. It may just help you to know that you're not alone in this. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]You may read about a particular resource you didn't know about which may be helpful for YOU. That's right, YOU. At his age and at this stage and with other children in the home, you need to be focusing on you and your behaviors. Again, it's difficult. Keep coming back, keep reading and posting. Sending many gentle hugs.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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