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<blockquote data-quote="'Chelle" data-source="post: 206057" data-attributes="member: 1161"><p>Hi Lya and welcome to the board. I too have a son who's been diagnosis'd Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). We didn't get this until he was 11, but your story sounds very similar to ours. My difficult child's big problems in school started when he was 7, and the school psychiatric said many of his behaviors seemed like anxiety. It is partly, caused by his sensory overloads and that "not getting it" feeling that being in a school environment can cause. Our first evaluations didn't give any kind of diagnosis, and for the next 3 years he was in various school programs, that it turned out in the end were all the wrong ones for him as they focused only on his behavior and not what was causing it. He was in therapy, and I realized once he was diagnosis'd that much of what she did with him was a help in the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) area so I'm thankful we had her. The only thing mentioned was he might be ODD. Finally I said this is not working, came close to breaking myself and found this site. I got good suggestions here, requested reevaluations and he was seen by a child psychiatric who specialized in developmental disorders. Finally with his diagnosis, a teacher who understood him and accomodations at school we were able to get him back in regular school and now at 15 and in grade 10 he's doing ok. Better every year, his resource teacher just phoned yesterday and said how he's having a very good semester.</p><p></p><p>It's good that your son's problems are being recognized earlier, so many of our smart, high-functioning kids don't get the right diagnosis early enough and have to struggle so much. The autism spectrum is just that.... a spectrum. No 2 kids with the diagnosis are exactly alike. My difficult child has friends, not a lot, 2 very good friends, and is friendly with other kids at school, so that's not necessarily a indicator that he's not Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). My difficult child has a hard time making new friends, and told me the other day he thinks parties are pointless LOL. Many of my son's meltdowns in school were sensory related, too hot, too bright, too much noise. Just like you mentioned with your son, they can deal with this for only so long and then it just becomes too much. My difficult child had a hard time learning to tell someone when something bothered him, that things could sometimes be changed to help him out. He did get the accomodation that he could go to a corner of the room, or out of the room, if things were getting too much for him.</p><p></p><p>Sorry, talking a bit too much about my difficult child LOL, but your story resonated so much with me. My son too was kinda in that gray area in the spectrum, but I think the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) diagnosis is the right one. I wanted to let you know that things can improve, and while I used to think my difficult child wouldn't even make it to grade 8, he's in 10 now and getting good marks. There will always be struggles, he will always hate going to school, but he's learned to cope with things so much better. And I just found out in talking with his teacher he's very friendly with a girl who's come from Japan and is helping her with English class. My difficult child, who detests English class LOL.</p><p></p><p>I'm crossing my fingers and all for you that with your son maybe getting a good diagnosis earlier that you can get him started learning the coping skills sooner and he'll have good success at school. When they're so smart you always want them to do so well, it's too bad that the other things get in the way. Someone mentioned the book The Explosive Child, and I recommend it too. Helped me learn a new way of dealing with my difficult child that lessened a lot of the problems we were having. I think it helped me learn how to talk with difficult child, so that he could start to verbalize to me his frustrations.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with your evaluations, hope you get some answers you need to help your son. And again welcome to the board, it's a great place for support when you need it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="'Chelle, post: 206057, member: 1161"] Hi Lya and welcome to the board. I too have a son who's been diagnosis'd Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). We didn't get this until he was 11, but your story sounds very similar to ours. My difficult child's big problems in school started when he was 7, and the school psychiatric said many of his behaviors seemed like anxiety. It is partly, caused by his sensory overloads and that "not getting it" feeling that being in a school environment can cause. Our first evaluations didn't give any kind of diagnosis, and for the next 3 years he was in various school programs, that it turned out in the end were all the wrong ones for him as they focused only on his behavior and not what was causing it. He was in therapy, and I realized once he was diagnosis'd that much of what she did with him was a help in the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) area so I'm thankful we had her. The only thing mentioned was he might be ODD. Finally I said this is not working, came close to breaking myself and found this site. I got good suggestions here, requested reevaluations and he was seen by a child psychiatric who specialized in developmental disorders. Finally with his diagnosis, a teacher who understood him and accomodations at school we were able to get him back in regular school and now at 15 and in grade 10 he's doing ok. Better every year, his resource teacher just phoned yesterday and said how he's having a very good semester. It's good that your son's problems are being recognized earlier, so many of our smart, high-functioning kids don't get the right diagnosis early enough and have to struggle so much. The autism spectrum is just that.... a spectrum. No 2 kids with the diagnosis are exactly alike. My difficult child has friends, not a lot, 2 very good friends, and is friendly with other kids at school, so that's not necessarily a indicator that he's not Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). My difficult child has a hard time making new friends, and told me the other day he thinks parties are pointless LOL. Many of my son's meltdowns in school were sensory related, too hot, too bright, too much noise. Just like you mentioned with your son, they can deal with this for only so long and then it just becomes too much. My difficult child had a hard time learning to tell someone when something bothered him, that things could sometimes be changed to help him out. He did get the accomodation that he could go to a corner of the room, or out of the room, if things were getting too much for him. Sorry, talking a bit too much about my difficult child LOL, but your story resonated so much with me. My son too was kinda in that gray area in the spectrum, but I think the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) diagnosis is the right one. I wanted to let you know that things can improve, and while I used to think my difficult child wouldn't even make it to grade 8, he's in 10 now and getting good marks. There will always be struggles, he will always hate going to school, but he's learned to cope with things so much better. And I just found out in talking with his teacher he's very friendly with a girl who's come from Japan and is helping her with English class. My difficult child, who detests English class LOL. I'm crossing my fingers and all for you that with your son maybe getting a good diagnosis earlier that you can get him started learning the coping skills sooner and he'll have good success at school. When they're so smart you always want them to do so well, it's too bad that the other things get in the way. Someone mentioned the book The Explosive Child, and I recommend it too. Helped me learn a new way of dealing with my difficult child that lessened a lot of the problems we were having. I think it helped me learn how to talk with difficult child, so that he could start to verbalize to me his frustrations. Good luck with your evaluations, hope you get some answers you need to help your son. And again welcome to the board, it's a great place for support when you need it. [/QUOTE]
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