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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 400416" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>A good sleep routine can really help. SAD is also something you need to consider - you can provide your own light therapy if you get him up early each morning and turn on the lights - strong white fluorescents. And again at the end of the day, strong white light. But then cut the light exposure late in the evening. ie no gaming into the wee small hours (something we're struggling with, with difficult child 3).</p><p></p><p>As for study - we found, with both our boys, that they did a lot better working on one subject's topic until that topic was finished. They made much better progress and their learning was more holistic - the other mental connections they have to make to learn effectively, are more easily made if they're not stopping ad starting too much. I would get my boys started (sometimes getting started could take a while!) and then just shove food at them at various intervals so they could keep working.</p><p></p><p>Both boys had huge gaps in their education. difficult child 3, we realised, had simply not learned anything at school, ever. Not a thing. He had been learning at home, a little, on days he was home sick. But it wasn't until he was in Grade 5 and spent half that year home, with me giving him my own version of an informal education, that mental connections began to be made. In grade 5 difficult child 3 could not find Australia on a map of the world or a globe. He did not understand anything about countries or continents. We would go for a drive and he would ask, "Are we in another country now? How long would we have to drive to get to America?" when we had only been driving for half an hour. We would go on holidays and he would think we had moved house permanently. By the end of Grade 5 he had a good idea of how to navigate around the world; he understood what products are found in what countries, he hd a better idea of different cultures and languages (even knowing that different cultures and languages existed was a breakthrough). And meanwhile his mathematical ability was once again getting a chance to develop as his brain was capable.</p><p></p><p>A bright child will resent obstacles to his education. You also need to recognise that an Aspie's response to communication is disordered and immature. They learn by imitation, and it is YOUR example that they will follow. Also, Aspies can learn, and continue to learn and adapt, lifelong. You can learn how to be the best parent your son needs, despite your own Asperger's. In fact, your Asperger's could work in your favour. </p><p></p><p>My Aspie friend's therapist told him that adult Aspies adapt almost completely, and superficially can pass as normal. However, some things cannot adapt - sensory issues and anxiety. Anxiety is something you can learn to handle to a certain extent as you get older, but the kernel of it is always there and ready to surge to the forefront if circumstances become exceptional.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 400416, member: 1991"] A good sleep routine can really help. SAD is also something you need to consider - you can provide your own light therapy if you get him up early each morning and turn on the lights - strong white fluorescents. And again at the end of the day, strong white light. But then cut the light exposure late in the evening. ie no gaming into the wee small hours (something we're struggling with, with difficult child 3). As for study - we found, with both our boys, that they did a lot better working on one subject's topic until that topic was finished. They made much better progress and their learning was more holistic - the other mental connections they have to make to learn effectively, are more easily made if they're not stopping ad starting too much. I would get my boys started (sometimes getting started could take a while!) and then just shove food at them at various intervals so they could keep working. Both boys had huge gaps in their education. difficult child 3, we realised, had simply not learned anything at school, ever. Not a thing. He had been learning at home, a little, on days he was home sick. But it wasn't until he was in Grade 5 and spent half that year home, with me giving him my own version of an informal education, that mental connections began to be made. In grade 5 difficult child 3 could not find Australia on a map of the world or a globe. He did not understand anything about countries or continents. We would go for a drive and he would ask, "Are we in another country now? How long would we have to drive to get to America?" when we had only been driving for half an hour. We would go on holidays and he would think we had moved house permanently. By the end of Grade 5 he had a good idea of how to navigate around the world; he understood what products are found in what countries, he hd a better idea of different cultures and languages (even knowing that different cultures and languages existed was a breakthrough). And meanwhile his mathematical ability was once again getting a chance to develop as his brain was capable. A bright child will resent obstacles to his education. You also need to recognise that an Aspie's response to communication is disordered and immature. They learn by imitation, and it is YOUR example that they will follow. Also, Aspies can learn, and continue to learn and adapt, lifelong. You can learn how to be the best parent your son needs, despite your own Asperger's. In fact, your Asperger's could work in your favour. My Aspie friend's therapist told him that adult Aspies adapt almost completely, and superficially can pass as normal. However, some things cannot adapt - sensory issues and anxiety. Anxiety is something you can learn to handle to a certain extent as you get older, but the kernel of it is always there and ready to surge to the forefront if circumstances become exceptional. Marg [/QUOTE]
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