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<blockquote data-quote="threelittles" data-source="post: 182495" data-attributes="member: 5697"><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">LittleDudesMom-yes, I have been mourning many losses with my son, and this is the latest, I guess. Thanks for the links to the other boards. I will try to answer your questions (again, since they got deleted last night before I could post! grrrr!):</span></span></p><p>What are the behaviors that particularly worry you about your son? </p><p>~defiance</p><p>~very impulsive</p><p>~tantrums</p><p>~inflexibility</p><p>~demanding</p><p>~defiant</p><p>~hurting others</p><p>~not seeming to be aware of give and take in relationships, lacking understanding of social cues</p><p>~random yelling out (sounds, not words)</p><p>~constant motion</p><p>~anxiety</p><p>~getting stuck on one idea, trouble letting some things go</p><p>~has a lot of trouble going to bed</p><p>~can be "too much". too wild, even if he is playing a game that is rowdy, he will get a little too rough, a little too loud, a little too rowdy. </p><p> </p><p>Does he harm or overly bother his siblings? </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">Yes, he does. He is getting better in his relationship with his brother, meaning that they have fun and enjoy each other and play together, but he does still hurt him (scratch, hit, push, grab) often. Also does things to make him mad, doesn't stop when little one says stop, bossy, takes over everything and has to be his way most of the time. He has always been very jealous of little one. But the jealousy is getting better. With his baby sister (15 months), he adores her but he can be too loud, too wild, too rough, with her. </span></span></p><p> </p><p>Is he defiant at every turn? </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">Sometimes. I can tell right away in the morning if it is going to be a bad day. Often, he's not defiant at every turn but when something sets him off. Other times, it is constant. But there are periods of time when he's not at all. It is like a switch flips and we may have a week or two or even three when he is much more calm and settled and in control of himself. I cannot for the life of me figure out what "flips the switch". Or what flips it back the other way, either. He has been MUCH better this summer at home than during the school year. During the school year we had times when he was just falling apart (at home) and tantruming, raging, hitting, destructive... I couldn't always get out of him what was going on at school. He also has this attitude of, he doesn't have to listen to anybody in authority, and wants to do whatever HE wants, he is in charge. </span></span></p><p> </p><p>Is he particularly clingy to either you or your husband? </p><p>No.</p><p> </p><p>Or is he the opposite, not appearing to bond with anyone? </p><p>No. He is affectionate and loving. </p><p> </p><p>How about at school, does he have little buddies? </p><p>Yes, he does. He does friends, but his friends are almost all hearing impaired. He has trouble more trouble with hearing kids.</p><p> </p><p>Is he constantly in trouble?</p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">Not constantly. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> He has good days and bad at school. He has done more extreme things like take manipulatives from the classroom home in his pocket, scribble on a mural that the class made, bother other kids, hit, and scratch (even on the face). <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> He did have a lot of positive experiences at school too. If he has a bad fit with a teacher, forget it. He will become a big behavior problem. But if he feels loved and secure and there is a lot of structure and consistency, he thrives. He is a leader with the other kids (but not hearing kids). </span></span></p><p> </p><p> How is his academic development, is he pretty much in line with the majority of his class? I know he's young, but an experienced k teacher could tell if he is meeting benchmarks.</p><p>Yes, he is pretty close to on track. He never actually had a regular kindergarten year last year. His class was hearing impaired preschool and K, but not necessarily following K curriculum. He was mainstreamed for parts of his day. His trouble with language makes it hard. </p><p> </p><p>Wow, thanks for all of that. I just wrote a small novel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="threelittles, post: 182495, member: 5697"] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]LittleDudesMom-yes, I have been mourning many losses with my son, and this is the latest, I guess. Thanks for the links to the other boards. I will try to answer your questions (again, since they got deleted last night before I could post! grrrr!):[/SIZE][/FONT] What are the behaviors that particularly worry you about your son? ~defiance ~very impulsive ~tantrums ~inflexibility ~demanding ~defiant ~hurting others ~not seeming to be aware of give and take in relationships, lacking understanding of social cues ~random yelling out (sounds, not words) ~constant motion ~anxiety ~getting stuck on one idea, trouble letting some things go ~has a lot of trouble going to bed ~can be "too much". too wild, even if he is playing a game that is rowdy, he will get a little too rough, a little too loud, a little too rowdy. [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] Does he harm or overly bother his siblings? [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]Yes, he does. He is getting better in his relationship with his brother, meaning that they have fun and enjoy each other and play together, but he does still hurt him (scratch, hit, push, grab) often. Also does things to make him mad, doesn't stop when little one says stop, bossy, takes over everything and has to be his way most of the time. He has always been very jealous of little one. But the jealousy is getting better. With his baby sister (15 months), he adores her but he can be too loud, too wild, too rough, with her. [/SIZE][/FONT] Is he defiant at every turn? [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]Sometimes. I can tell right away in the morning if it is going to be a bad day. Often, he's not defiant at every turn but when something sets him off. Other times, it is constant. But there are periods of time when he's not at all. It is like a switch flips and we may have a week or two or even three when he is much more calm and settled and in control of himself. I cannot for the life of me figure out what "flips the switch". Or what flips it back the other way, either. He has been MUCH better this summer at home than during the school year. During the school year we had times when he was just falling apart (at home) and tantruming, raging, hitting, destructive... I couldn't always get out of him what was going on at school. He also has this attitude of, he doesn't have to listen to anybody in authority, and wants to do whatever HE wants, he is in charge. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] Is he particularly clingy to either you or your husband? No. Or is he the opposite, not appearing to bond with anyone? No. He is affectionate and loving. [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] How about at school, does he have little buddies? Yes, he does. He does friends, but his friends are almost all hearing impaired. He has trouble more trouble with hearing kids. [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] Is he constantly in trouble? [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]Not constantly. :) He has good days and bad at school. He has done more extreme things like take manipulatives from the classroom home in his pocket, scribble on a mural that the class made, bother other kids, hit, and scratch (even on the face). :( He did have a lot of positive experiences at school too. If he has a bad fit with a teacher, forget it. He will become a big behavior problem. But if he feels loved and secure and there is a lot of structure and consistency, he thrives. He is a leader with the other kids (but not hearing kids). [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] How is his academic development, is he pretty much in line with the majority of his class? I know he's young, but an experienced k teacher could tell if he is meeting benchmarks. Yes, he is pretty close to on track. He never actually had a regular kindergarten year last year. His class was hearing impaired preschool and K, but not necessarily following K curriculum. He was mainstreamed for parts of his day. His trouble with language makes it hard. Wow, thanks for all of that. I just wrote a small novel. [/QUOTE]
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