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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 639382" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>What I'm about to suggest may seem radical, and it may already be too late.</p><p></p><p>First, even if she drug-tested negative, assume she is abusing drugs, alcohol and having unprotected sex. If she is looking for the emotional bond, sex can sometimes seem a way to get it for a teenager, and promiscuity comes as a result. It's a coping strategy, but an unhealthy one. Ditto drugs and alcohol - misplaced and inappropriate self-medicating.</p><p></p><p>If she is in with a bad group at school, and failing school anyway, pull her out. At her current rate she won't graduate and you'll all be miserable if you try to force the issue. If you can get her into a work placement program or even some voluntary work placement (ie emptying chamber pots at an old folks home) it gets her away from at least some of the bad influences and could change her direction. Could. Might. Things are bad, she is also just as likely to run to her 'friends'.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, trying to get her to graduation now, is beating all your heads against a brick wall. She can always go back and try to graduate in a few years' time, when (if) she gets her act together. </p><p></p><p>Graduation will only get you places if you want to go there and are prepared to put in the work. Otherwise - get a head start in the work force, at least with experience and learning life skills. An accountancy course? Bookkeeping? Data entry? </p><p></p><p>And maybe some time away from the bad influences will help her stabilise enough for the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to take her, although I'd be shopping around for one that will take her as she is now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 639382, member: 1991"] What I'm about to suggest may seem radical, and it may already be too late. First, even if she drug-tested negative, assume she is abusing drugs, alcohol and having unprotected sex. If she is looking for the emotional bond, sex can sometimes seem a way to get it for a teenager, and promiscuity comes as a result. It's a coping strategy, but an unhealthy one. Ditto drugs and alcohol - misplaced and inappropriate self-medicating. If she is in with a bad group at school, and failing school anyway, pull her out. At her current rate she won't graduate and you'll all be miserable if you try to force the issue. If you can get her into a work placement program or even some voluntary work placement (ie emptying chamber pots at an old folks home) it gets her away from at least some of the bad influences and could change her direction. Could. Might. Things are bad, she is also just as likely to run to her 'friends'. The thing is, trying to get her to graduation now, is beating all your heads against a brick wall. She can always go back and try to graduate in a few years' time, when (if) she gets her act together. Graduation will only get you places if you want to go there and are prepared to put in the work. Otherwise - get a head start in the work force, at least with experience and learning life skills. An accountancy course? Bookkeeping? Data entry? And maybe some time away from the bad influences will help her stabilise enough for the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to take her, although I'd be shopping around for one that will take her as she is now. [/QUOTE]
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