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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 332788" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Hi mandimae.</p><p> </p><p>You know, we are just parents like you who, at times, have been/are just as clueless as to what is going on with our kids! However, many of us can share our stories of success and failure and you can take the parts that make sense to you and go from there.</p><p> </p><p>I would first suggest the book "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. We recommend that to all our new members - it's kinda like our bible around here. Second, I would suggest you take your daughter for testing with a pediatric neuropsychologist for a full evaluation. You could also go for a multidisciplinary evaluation at a local children's hospital or the psychiatric dept of a local teacher medical school. With the strong genetic component, I believe it's important to get some really indept testing done now.</p><p> </p><p>In young children, many times depression can manifest as anger and agression. That was the case with my son who has adhd. Once treated with medications and therapy for a couple years, he is doing great. However, the other component, since there is history of bipolar, is that very often the stimulants used for adhd can create mania in kids with BiPolar (BP). Additionally, bipolar in children can mimic many of the symptoms of adhd.</p><p> </p><p>Basically, I think further study and evaluation is a must. </p><p> </p><p>That's not to say that you will get straight answers or that a magic pill or therapy will make everything "normal". We just get to that point where we understand that our children are not typical kids and will never be typical kids. But they have many other things to offer that make us love them even more. We will always be looking for ways to offer them the chance of success. We will work with schools to make sure they are getting a quality education, we will work with doctors to make sure they are getting the best treatment, we will investigate the smallest crumb on the internet, or seek out parents who understand.</p><p> </p><p>That the teachers don't see the same behavior is not unusual. Many parents here have had, or are having, the same. In our case, my difficult child had the raging at school but never at home. What might be a really good idea for you, especially given that you might be waiting a month or more for an appointment, is to begin to keep a log of your daughter's behavior, medication doses, etc. Write little comments on your calandar at home such as, "asked to go to bed, set her off" or "tantrum regarding a tv program lasted 25 minutes" or "angry about nothing and threw down such and such and broke it". It's a good thing to take to the doctor's office when you go because it will help you remember the issues and help the doctor see a pattern and not just your telling him or her about the behavior. The other thing you can do when you have a minute, is go back and think about her infancy and early childhood and write down milestones like when she walked and sat up, how your pregnancy progressed, anything out of the ordinary you remember. All these things really help the doctor to get an overall snapshop of who your daughter is.</p><p> </p><p>Sorry I rambled on for such a long time, but your daughter is young and now is the time to try and get some answers so that she can move forward in a positive way.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 332788, member: 805"] Hi mandimae. You know, we are just parents like you who, at times, have been/are just as clueless as to what is going on with our kids! However, many of us can share our stories of success and failure and you can take the parts that make sense to you and go from there. I would first suggest the book "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. We recommend that to all our new members - it's kinda like our bible around here. Second, I would suggest you take your daughter for testing with a pediatric neuropsychologist for a full evaluation. You could also go for a multidisciplinary evaluation at a local children's hospital or the psychiatric dept of a local teacher medical school. With the strong genetic component, I believe it's important to get some really indept testing done now. In young children, many times depression can manifest as anger and agression. That was the case with my son who has adhd. Once treated with medications and therapy for a couple years, he is doing great. However, the other component, since there is history of bipolar, is that very often the stimulants used for adhd can create mania in kids with BiPolar (BP). Additionally, bipolar in children can mimic many of the symptoms of adhd. Basically, I think further study and evaluation is a must. That's not to say that you will get straight answers or that a magic pill or therapy will make everything "normal". We just get to that point where we understand that our children are not typical kids and will never be typical kids. But they have many other things to offer that make us love them even more. We will always be looking for ways to offer them the chance of success. We will work with schools to make sure they are getting a quality education, we will work with doctors to make sure they are getting the best treatment, we will investigate the smallest crumb on the internet, or seek out parents who understand. That the teachers don't see the same behavior is not unusual. Many parents here have had, or are having, the same. In our case, my difficult child had the raging at school but never at home. What might be a really good idea for you, especially given that you might be waiting a month or more for an appointment, is to begin to keep a log of your daughter's behavior, medication doses, etc. Write little comments on your calandar at home such as, "asked to go to bed, set her off" or "tantrum regarding a tv program lasted 25 minutes" or "angry about nothing and threw down such and such and broke it". It's a good thing to take to the doctor's office when you go because it will help you remember the issues and help the doctor see a pattern and not just your telling him or her about the behavior. The other thing you can do when you have a minute, is go back and think about her infancy and early childhood and write down milestones like when she walked and sat up, how your pregnancy progressed, anything out of the ordinary you remember. All these things really help the doctor to get an overall snapshop of who your daughter is. Sorry I rambled on for such a long time, but your daughter is young and now is the time to try and get some answers so that she can move forward in a positive way. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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