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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 330691" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome! I am glad you are here but sorry you had to seek us out.</p><p></p><p>If you could, go to the User CP button at the top of the screen and add a signature, like the one you see at the bottom of my post. It will give us a way to keep track with-o having to keep going back to look things up. It helps to mention if there are other kids in the home, pets, etc...</p><p></p><p>Custody has to be the first thing. How have you managed medical care up to now? With no official custody you probably cannot get access to many things that she NEEDS.</p><p></p><p>Right now, today, go to amazon.com or the library or bookstore and get a copy of The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It isn't a long read and is extremely helpful. It IS a different way of approaching parenting, and often seems counter-intuitive. Most of us here have found it to be extremely helpful though.</p><p></p><p>I also strongly suggest getting an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory integration disorder. She almost certainly has some forms of it, and it is one way to help with-o medications. There are 2 books that really help explain this: The out of sync child and the out of sync child has fun. The has fun book is packed with activities to do with her and any other kids. They can help keep her busy and also help her start to show you what kinds of sensory input are stimulating, calming, soothing, wind her up, etc... School can do an Occupational Therapist (OT) assessment, but they only focus on what affects academics. You need a more in depth look at the whole child so I recommend a private assessment. </p><p></p><p>Chances are she has some problems from fetal alcohol exposure. Mostly if a mom is open about drinking she is also using drugs, at least from what I have read and heard on the subject. If her mom ever had a taste for any drugs chances are high she used while preg. Fetal alcohol is awful and cruel to the child and the family. From what I know on the subject, there is fetal alcohol syndrome that has specific physical traits and brain damage. Then there is fetal alcohol effect, which is harder to diagnosis andmay or may not have the physical signs such as a certain look to the eyes and a crease on the palm. If she has fetal alcohol problems she may not be able to learn certain things. There will be brain damage similar to swiss cheese, irregular holes in the brain, areas of damage. It will be very very hard to learn from her mistakes and she may or may not be able to use her IQ. I think the muscle tone problems may be a sign of this, not sure.</p><p></p><p>You NEED a doctor who is experienced with all types of fetal alcohol problems to help you.</p><p></p><p>I know this is really hard on you and your entire family. And that you are doing the best you can.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 330691, member: 1233"] Welcome! I am glad you are here but sorry you had to seek us out. If you could, go to the User CP button at the top of the screen and add a signature, like the one you see at the bottom of my post. It will give us a way to keep track with-o having to keep going back to look things up. It helps to mention if there are other kids in the home, pets, etc... Custody has to be the first thing. How have you managed medical care up to now? With no official custody you probably cannot get access to many things that she NEEDS. Right now, today, go to amazon.com or the library or bookstore and get a copy of The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It isn't a long read and is extremely helpful. It IS a different way of approaching parenting, and often seems counter-intuitive. Most of us here have found it to be extremely helpful though. I also strongly suggest getting an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory integration disorder. She almost certainly has some forms of it, and it is one way to help with-o medications. There are 2 books that really help explain this: The out of sync child and the out of sync child has fun. The has fun book is packed with activities to do with her and any other kids. They can help keep her busy and also help her start to show you what kinds of sensory input are stimulating, calming, soothing, wind her up, etc... School can do an Occupational Therapist (OT) assessment, but they only focus on what affects academics. You need a more in depth look at the whole child so I recommend a private assessment. Chances are she has some problems from fetal alcohol exposure. Mostly if a mom is open about drinking she is also using drugs, at least from what I have read and heard on the subject. If her mom ever had a taste for any drugs chances are high she used while preg. Fetal alcohol is awful and cruel to the child and the family. From what I know on the subject, there is fetal alcohol syndrome that has specific physical traits and brain damage. Then there is fetal alcohol effect, which is harder to diagnosis andmay or may not have the physical signs such as a certain look to the eyes and a crease on the palm. If she has fetal alcohol problems she may not be able to learn certain things. There will be brain damage similar to swiss cheese, irregular holes in the brain, areas of damage. It will be very very hard to learn from her mistakes and she may or may not be able to use her IQ. I think the muscle tone problems may be a sign of this, not sure. You NEED a doctor who is experienced with all types of fetal alcohol problems to help you. I know this is really hard on you and your entire family. And that you are doing the best you can. [/QUOTE]
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