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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 607906" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Hi. Fellow Aussie here. Outskirts of Sydney. Welcome!</p><p></p><p>Suggestion - remain anonymous. You will be glad of it here. It allows you to freely vent, knowing that you can't be tracked by anyone you're dealing with. We use code names or similar, to avoid being 'outed'.</p><p></p><p>There is support available (of various kinds) through school, if she's attending public school. Private - they can also access the federal educational support funding. But first you would need a specialist to back you up, to preferably give you at least a provisional diagnosis. The funding is based on the level of need according to forms you fill in with the school counsellor etc. </p><p></p><p>But that might be further down the path for you.</p><p></p><p>Step 1 - get her assessed. Your gut instincts are worth listening to. Generally a pediatrician is a good start. If you have a good GP who can help you keep on track with health care and support, it's good. A GP can also write a Mental Care Plan to help you get access to bulk-billed psychology appointments for her if it's felt they would help.</p><p></p><p>Step 2 - a really good resource we found, was "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Check out your local library. We found that by changing how we applied discipline to our child, we got totally different (and greatly improved) results. It's almost a 180 degree turnaround in approach. Normally when you have a challenging child, you tend to clamp down harder on controls and discipline. With this system, you actually become your child's facilitator instead of obstacle, so the child learns to not fight you, but work with you. There is some discussion on this book scattered throughout the site, do a search for it. It really helps.</p><p></p><p>Depending on where you are, will make a difference in what kind of help you can get and how you go about getting it. It shouldn't make a difference, but it does. There are a lot of things you can do, but it can take talking to other parents to find out about them. Dept of Ed won't always tell you, especially early on. They tend to be punishment-focussed until you have a diagnosis that indicates that is not appropriate. Even then, they don't always walk away from a punishment focus.</p><p></p><p>As you will see from the ages of my kids, we've been fighting battles for a long time. I've learned a lot about how to get the support we needed, and how to get around the red tape. It is easier these days. I also have a useful contact in NSW DET should you need to get more specific help with school.</p><p></p><p>It's late, got to head for bed. I'll check in first thing tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 607906, member: 1991"] Hi. Fellow Aussie here. Outskirts of Sydney. Welcome! Suggestion - remain anonymous. You will be glad of it here. It allows you to freely vent, knowing that you can't be tracked by anyone you're dealing with. We use code names or similar, to avoid being 'outed'. There is support available (of various kinds) through school, if she's attending public school. Private - they can also access the federal educational support funding. But first you would need a specialist to back you up, to preferably give you at least a provisional diagnosis. The funding is based on the level of need according to forms you fill in with the school counsellor etc. But that might be further down the path for you. Step 1 - get her assessed. Your gut instincts are worth listening to. Generally a pediatrician is a good start. If you have a good GP who can help you keep on track with health care and support, it's good. A GP can also write a Mental Care Plan to help you get access to bulk-billed psychology appointments for her if it's felt they would help. Step 2 - a really good resource we found, was "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Check out your local library. We found that by changing how we applied discipline to our child, we got totally different (and greatly improved) results. It's almost a 180 degree turnaround in approach. Normally when you have a challenging child, you tend to clamp down harder on controls and discipline. With this system, you actually become your child's facilitator instead of obstacle, so the child learns to not fight you, but work with you. There is some discussion on this book scattered throughout the site, do a search for it. It really helps. Depending on where you are, will make a difference in what kind of help you can get and how you go about getting it. It shouldn't make a difference, but it does. There are a lot of things you can do, but it can take talking to other parents to find out about them. Dept of Ed won't always tell you, especially early on. They tend to be punishment-focussed until you have a diagnosis that indicates that is not appropriate. Even then, they don't always walk away from a punishment focus. As you will see from the ages of my kids, we've been fighting battles for a long time. I've learned a lot about how to get the support we needed, and how to get around the red tape. It is easier these days. I also have a useful contact in NSW DET should you need to get more specific help with school. It's late, got to head for bed. I'll check in first thing tomorrow. Marg [/QUOTE]
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