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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 529819" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I had a very pleasant conversation with the difficult child via phone earlier today. He has been thinking the issue and while he still feels he would want someone else than me handling his money, he does understand that the girlfriend is not the best choice. He will try to find out, if there would be any other options but agrees that for now, it will be best I continue in the job. He also promised to be more respectful with me about the situation. He says he understands why asking the girlfriend to do it would be unfair.</p><p></p><p>He didn't say, but I have an inkling that he has talked a little about the matter with one of his older team-mates he has a good rapport with and that he has given him a dose of reality. Or somehow my son had came aware that almost none of the guys in the team is together with the girl they were with than they were 18. In fact I ended up consoling him that while it is indeed rather rare, it does happen and I pointed out those people I know. And pointed out that I wasn't that many years older when I met husband. And that while you never know how and when the relationship will end, it certainly is not the reason not try to make the best of it. And that right now they are in love and they have it good and that's all that matters. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/choir.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":choir:" title="choir :choir:" data-shortname=":choir:" /></p><p></p><p>Now the only problem is, that my gut screams and all the warning bells are jingling. And I don't know why. The difficult child didn't say anything alarming. We talked about his next week (gonna be busy), practises, him coming to visit next weekend, he asked an advice for the few practical matters (for example about certain dinner dish I often do, he is cooking for his girlfriend and her sister and sister's boyfriend tomorrow.) He was calm and pleasant. Didn't try to hide any plans or something like that. I don't think he was lying. So I really don't know. I just have a feeling there is something he is not telling and that something bothers him. So now I sit here and wait for the other shoe to drop. And worry.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p><p></p><p>Probably better to just put my running shoes on and go to jog my longest regular route. At least this evening we are having a beautiful spring weather here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 529819, member: 14557"] I had a very pleasant conversation with the difficult child via phone earlier today. He has been thinking the issue and while he still feels he would want someone else than me handling his money, he does understand that the girlfriend is not the best choice. He will try to find out, if there would be any other options but agrees that for now, it will be best I continue in the job. He also promised to be more respectful with me about the situation. He says he understands why asking the girlfriend to do it would be unfair. He didn't say, but I have an inkling that he has talked a little about the matter with one of his older team-mates he has a good rapport with and that he has given him a dose of reality. Or somehow my son had came aware that almost none of the guys in the team is together with the girl they were with than they were 18. In fact I ended up consoling him that while it is indeed rather rare, it does happen and I pointed out those people I know. And pointed out that I wasn't that many years older when I met husband. And that while you never know how and when the relationship will end, it certainly is not the reason not try to make the best of it. And that right now they are in love and they have it good and that's all that matters. :choir: Now the only problem is, that my gut screams and all the warning bells are jingling. And I don't know why. The difficult child didn't say anything alarming. We talked about his next week (gonna be busy), practises, him coming to visit next weekend, he asked an advice for the few practical matters (for example about certain dinner dish I often do, he is cooking for his girlfriend and her sister and sister's boyfriend tomorrow.) He was calm and pleasant. Didn't try to hide any plans or something like that. I don't think he was lying. So I really don't know. I just have a feeling there is something he is not telling and that something bothers him. So now I sit here and wait for the other shoe to drop. And worry.:sigh: Probably better to just put my running shoes on and go to jog my longest regular route. At least this evening we are having a beautiful spring weather here. [/QUOTE]
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