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<blockquote data-quote="Bluemoon" data-source="post: 380395"><p>Thank you all so very much.</p><p> </p><p>Need to clarify...when I asked for the IEP in K, they did do one, they just said that he didn't qualify...then they sent notes home complaining about all kinds of weird behavior.</p><p>I kept those notes and they are now in the 2" binder I have packed full of all the efforts I have made, a paper trail of results and denials, observations, medical records, and every post I have ever written about E on the single parents forum I belong to. </p><p> </p><p>THAT, by the way, turned out to be a wonderful resource, like keeping a journal and getting support all at the same time. This place would/will be as well.</p><p> </p><p>As for E's Dad, he was cheating all over the place, but two instances in particular caused great stress for me during my pregnancy.</p><p>One was when he was caught (repeatedly) with an underage child. Nothing could be done because the child (and her mother) were thrilled with the relationship and would have denied and protected him if I had approached the authorities with anything short of proof on video....a fact they rubbed in my face.</p><p> </p><p>Also, he had had an affair with a girl I worked with who had once been my friend. When I was 7 months pregnant (and before, too) she was following me around work trying to get me to physically fight her...probably so she could get me fired.</p><p>Meanwhile, I was pregnant and my boss considered me a dead end employee because of it, and she was being groomed to be his personal lackey, so I could get no support from my superiors. All this = LOTS of stress that I tried to manage intellegently, but...(actually, there was way more than that but that was the worst part)...I'm sure it effected my body and therefore my baby.</p><p> </p><p>That's the long emotional answer to your question, Midwestmom. The more to the point answer is that yes, in restrospect his father does have indicators of ODD, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and probably others, as well as a deeply ingrained family history of similar problems. In fact, few got out alive. I'm not being a drama queen, it's a fact.</p><p> </p><p>He was speech delayed and still has a pronounced speech impediment, he seems devoid of empathy and, quite franky, is a criminal. He has been to jail and is a pathological liar. He has not curbed his criminal activities, he has just gotten better at not getting caught. (He also just had another baby).</p><p> </p><p>He will convince you that he is much too kind to ever take advantage of you and also that he is not bright enough to pull it off even if he tried...and odds are good you will fall for it. Most do. I did. So did the marriage councelor until she caught him the millionth lie.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I digress....</p><p>I also have a very checkered history, genetically speaking. My mother has Borderline (BPD) and has never been able to find successful treatment....though she has had every kind there is including shock therapy. She is an invalid due to her mental illness today.</p><p> </p><p>I suffer from depression, as does my sister and a cousin. They are on medications...I don't know which. I have tried medications in the past, but seem to do better when I focus on being proactive, staying on top of my symptoms.</p><p>Raising E has been a real challenge in this area, though.</p><p>My father is an alcoholic, and just generally a very weird guy.</p><p>In myself it's hard to determine what is a possible disorder and what is a result of a very bizarre childhood.</p><p> </p><p>Generally, I understand just enough to understand that I don't understand anything well when it comes to E. I just know that I would do ANYTHING to help him be the best that he can be. I owe him the best life I can give him.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Thank you all for your support, I am going to check out the links you have provided.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bluemoon, post: 380395"] Thank you all so very much. Need to clarify...when I asked for the IEP in K, they did do one, they just said that he didn't qualify...then they sent notes home complaining about all kinds of weird behavior. I kept those notes and they are now in the 2" binder I have packed full of all the efforts I have made, a paper trail of results and denials, observations, medical records, and every post I have ever written about E on the single parents forum I belong to. THAT, by the way, turned out to be a wonderful resource, like keeping a journal and getting support all at the same time. This place would/will be as well. As for E's Dad, he was cheating all over the place, but two instances in particular caused great stress for me during my pregnancy. One was when he was caught (repeatedly) with an underage child. Nothing could be done because the child (and her mother) were thrilled with the relationship and would have denied and protected him if I had approached the authorities with anything short of proof on video....a fact they rubbed in my face. Also, he had had an affair with a girl I worked with who had once been my friend. When I was 7 months pregnant (and before, too) she was following me around work trying to get me to physically fight her...probably so she could get me fired. Meanwhile, I was pregnant and my boss considered me a dead end employee because of it, and she was being groomed to be his personal lackey, so I could get no support from my superiors. All this = LOTS of stress that I tried to manage intellegently, but...(actually, there was way more than that but that was the worst part)...I'm sure it effected my body and therefore my baby. That's the long emotional answer to your question, Midwestmom. The more to the point answer is that yes, in restrospect his father does have indicators of ODD, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and probably others, as well as a deeply ingrained family history of similar problems. In fact, few got out alive. I'm not being a drama queen, it's a fact. He was speech delayed and still has a pronounced speech impediment, he seems devoid of empathy and, quite franky, is a criminal. He has been to jail and is a pathological liar. He has not curbed his criminal activities, he has just gotten better at not getting caught. (He also just had another baby). He will convince you that he is much too kind to ever take advantage of you and also that he is not bright enough to pull it off even if he tried...and odds are good you will fall for it. Most do. I did. So did the marriage councelor until she caught him the millionth lie. Anyway, I digress.... I also have a very checkered history, genetically speaking. My mother has Borderline (BPD) and has never been able to find successful treatment....though she has had every kind there is including shock therapy. She is an invalid due to her mental illness today. I suffer from depression, as does my sister and a cousin. They are on medications...I don't know which. I have tried medications in the past, but seem to do better when I focus on being proactive, staying on top of my symptoms. Raising E has been a real challenge in this area, though. My father is an alcoholic, and just generally a very weird guy. In myself it's hard to determine what is a possible disorder and what is a result of a very bizarre childhood. Generally, I understand just enough to understand that I don't understand anything well when it comes to E. I just know that I would do ANYTHING to help him be the best that he can be. I owe him the best life I can give him. Thank you all for your support, I am going to check out the links you have provided. [/QUOTE]
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