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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 532689" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Ramblin - I'm so sorry that you have to be here. I'm pretty new to this site too. I have to tell you that the people here are absolutely fabulous and will have lots of wonderful words and advice for you. </p><p></p><p>I would say that the first thing you need to do is look into the eviction laws for your area and then act on them asap. </p><p></p><p>If your son is still drinking he isn't really 'recovering', is he? He may just be trading one addiction for another one. And it seems that they are all disrespectful to you in your own home, especially if they are stealing from you. </p><p></p><p>You have the right to run your home as you choose and if that doesn't involve them living there then they need to find their own homes and start living their own lives. You have done your job.</p><p></p><p>Something that my counsellor said to me was that we should approach our difficult child and say "We know that you're very capable of handling this and we believe that you can." That puts things in a more positive light and allows you to evict them without coming across as angry or mean (which you aren't - but they might see it that way). </p><p></p><p>And I would not pay for a storage unit for them - they will figure it out. If you start paying for thing once they are gone they will continue to come to you for hand outs for other things as well - don't set that pattern right out of the gate. </p><p></p><p>I wish you well. I'm sure that others here will have more/better advice than I do, but it's a start.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 532689, member: 14356"] Ramblin - I'm so sorry that you have to be here. I'm pretty new to this site too. I have to tell you that the people here are absolutely fabulous and will have lots of wonderful words and advice for you. I would say that the first thing you need to do is look into the eviction laws for your area and then act on them asap. If your son is still drinking he isn't really 'recovering', is he? He may just be trading one addiction for another one. And it seems that they are all disrespectful to you in your own home, especially if they are stealing from you. You have the right to run your home as you choose and if that doesn't involve them living there then they need to find their own homes and start living their own lives. You have done your job. Something that my counsellor said to me was that we should approach our difficult child and say "We know that you're very capable of handling this and we believe that you can." That puts things in a more positive light and allows you to evict them without coming across as angry or mean (which you aren't - but they might see it that way). And I would not pay for a storage unit for them - they will figure it out. If you start paying for thing once they are gone they will continue to come to you for hand outs for other things as well - don't set that pattern right out of the gate. I wish you well. I'm sure that others here will have more/better advice than I do, but it's a start. [/QUOTE]
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