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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 630721" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Welcome to the board. </p><p></p><p>That said, I dont think there can be an in between with our adult kids. I have had two adult difficult child's in my life in the last 3.5 years and it has been miserable. One is my youngest son and the other is my SO's brother who I do refer to as a brother in law since my SO and I have been together for the past 31 years. </p><p></p><p>Both of these two have wanted to pull a camper in our yard and live there. In fact my son brought an old camper there one day without us knowing he was going to do it! </p><p></p><p>I wouldnt have been so against my son living in a camper on the land if he had his own electric and ability to hook up to the water but he never got that far. He just hooked a drop cord to my house so basically he might as well have been living in the house. Now I wouldnt have let my brother in law that close for love nor money when it came time to get him out. He was more toxic than all of our difficult child's put together. </p><p></p><p>I think we have to live apart. This sounds incredibly stupid but my SO and I decided we simply couldnt live with my oldest and youngest son's anymore and we knew we could never manage to get them out of our house in a timely manner...time was very much of the essence when all this went down...so we moved out. We rented our home to the two boys and we now rent a much smaller home and we are much happier. I dont recommend this to anyone else unless it is something you really want to do. I wasnt very happy in our house to be honest and this gave me a clean start over. (Clean being the operative word. My house was pretty much trashed from everyone living there and doing nothing for the past ten years)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 630721, member: 1514"] Welcome to the board. That said, I dont think there can be an in between with our adult kids. I have had two adult difficult child's in my life in the last 3.5 years and it has been miserable. One is my youngest son and the other is my SO's brother who I do refer to as a brother in law since my SO and I have been together for the past 31 years. Both of these two have wanted to pull a camper in our yard and live there. In fact my son brought an old camper there one day without us knowing he was going to do it! I wouldnt have been so against my son living in a camper on the land if he had his own electric and ability to hook up to the water but he never got that far. He just hooked a drop cord to my house so basically he might as well have been living in the house. Now I wouldnt have let my brother in law that close for love nor money when it came time to get him out. He was more toxic than all of our difficult child's put together. I think we have to live apart. This sounds incredibly stupid but my SO and I decided we simply couldnt live with my oldest and youngest son's anymore and we knew we could never manage to get them out of our house in a timely manner...time was very much of the essence when all this went down...so we moved out. We rented our home to the two boys and we now rent a much smaller home and we are much happier. I dont recommend this to anyone else unless it is something you really want to do. I wasnt very happy in our house to be honest and this gave me a clean start over. (Clean being the operative word. My house was pretty much trashed from everyone living there and doing nothing for the past ten years) [/QUOTE]
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