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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 630774" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>RB,</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are in this place with the rest of us! But you found a good place to get support and strength as you enter this next phase. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It is awesome that you know this. You are not helping him by doing everything for him. He has to grow up and take care of himself..that is the natural order of things. Some people just don't do it until they have to...like most of our difficult children. And guess what..most of our difficult child's do do it (although not necessarily in ways that make their mommas proud) when they have to. I bet yours will too. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Listen to RE. This is so importnat. You cannot control your son's actions or choices...you can't guide him, force him beg him or show him. If you could, he'd have a great job and a house and a car in a garage now, because you have already tried everything except for stopping doing it all. Stopping is hard. It is scary, and we second guess, backslide, cry, feel guilty, feel ike bad parents and failures. YOu need support to get through this. We will help, and you need face to face help too.</p><p></p><p>And RB...you will feel better. Soon. Sooner than you know if you get help and stick to your plan.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and good luck,</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 630774, member: 17269"] RB, I am so sorry you are in this place with the rest of us! But you found a good place to get support and strength as you enter this next phase. It is awesome that you know this. You are not helping him by doing everything for him. He has to grow up and take care of himself..that is the natural order of things. Some people just don't do it until they have to...like most of our difficult children. And guess what..most of our difficult child's do do it (although not necessarily in ways that make their mommas proud) when they have to. I bet yours will too. Listen to RE. This is so importnat. You cannot control your son's actions or choices...you can't guide him, force him beg him or show him. If you could, he'd have a great job and a house and a car in a garage now, because you have already tried everything except for stopping doing it all. Stopping is hard. It is scary, and we second guess, backslide, cry, feel guilty, feel ike bad parents and failures. YOu need support to get through this. We will help, and you need face to face help too. And RB...you will feel better. Soon. Sooner than you know if you get help and stick to your plan. Hugs and good luck, Echo [/QUOTE]
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