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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 200735" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>Now looking back on last night, do you think you could have done anything to help him transition better? </p><p>I am just throwing out some thoughts here. Mainly because you do have awhile before your apt. </p><p>He could have been tired. Cranky, held it together all day, a lot of our kids need to let it go at some point in the day. </p><p>When K and N are arguing/fighting over a book or something. I will get in between them, hold the book, work with both of them to fix the problem. OK here is 2 books, I don't care whose it is... who wants which one? I let them know they are not in trouble, we are just trying to work together. </p><p>I would then let them know that they can choose to play nicely for say, 10 more minutes and then we will all clean up. Or ask him to hold on until you finish cleaning up.</p><p>If he gets upset, give him something to hold or to help calm him down. (squishy ball, clay, floam) Ask him to hold on until he is calm. </p><p>Sometimes when they are tired and things are changing end of the day... it is extra hard on our kids. It will take time, maybe just see if he needs to sit with you, offer it to him. </p><p>Do the opposite of what you would normally do. The battles are no fun for any any of you! Sometimes they just want know that you will not leave them that they will be OK. </p><p>Another big one that is hard to understand is that most of our kids feel so out of control, so they will do anything to control their environment around them, using any means, violence, anger etc. Feeling in control makes those of us with a Mood-Disorder feel better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 200735, member: 3155"] Now looking back on last night, do you think you could have done anything to help him transition better? I am just throwing out some thoughts here. Mainly because you do have awhile before your apt. He could have been tired. Cranky, held it together all day, a lot of our kids need to let it go at some point in the day. When K and N are arguing/fighting over a book or something. I will get in between them, hold the book, work with both of them to fix the problem. OK here is 2 books, I don't care whose it is... who wants which one? I let them know they are not in trouble, we are just trying to work together. I would then let them know that they can choose to play nicely for say, 10 more minutes and then we will all clean up. Or ask him to hold on until you finish cleaning up. If he gets upset, give him something to hold or to help calm him down. (squishy ball, clay, floam) Ask him to hold on until he is calm. Sometimes when they are tired and things are changing end of the day... it is extra hard on our kids. It will take time, maybe just see if he needs to sit with you, offer it to him. Do the opposite of what you would normally do. The battles are no fun for any any of you! Sometimes they just want know that you will not leave them that they will be OK. Another big one that is hard to understand is that most of our kids feel so out of control, so they will do anything to control their environment around them, using any means, violence, anger etc. Feeling in control makes those of us with a Mood-Disorder feel better. [/QUOTE]
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