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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 237393" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hi AmyJasz, nice to meet you.</p><p> </p><p>Wow, are your kids lucky to have a Special Education teacher for a mom!</p><p> </p><p>Just on the face of it, I would also say your son is in the Aspie range ... although he could have both, since you have bipolar dxes in the family. It's something you may not know for many yrs.</p><p>In the meantime, the fact that you are having testing done, and you have read The Explosive Child and put it to work for you, is excellent. You are way ahead of most newcomers here! Bravo.</p><p>Frankly, I can't help but wonder if the fact that your son's Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire wasn't as clear-cut as it could have been, is because you have done all the right interventions so far. I mean, if your son were at my house, he could have tested way below. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> (I'm not a completely bad mom, I just didn't know that much about child devpmnt until recently. Sigh.)</p><p> </p><p>My son is "Aspie lite." He can be very socially appropriate, but only to a point. He never, ever meets anyone on his own. If he has to do it on his own, he has a fit. He will argue and literally brace his feet and legs like a stubborn donkey. But if I introduce them, or if he meets them in school, they can be best buddies. Yes, that is anxiety. But is anxiety the CAUSE, period, or is it the effect of Asperger's? </p><p> </p><p>I notice that when they do the huddle and cheer at the end of his baseball games, he does what he is supposed to do, then immediately backs out of the huddle and stands about 3 - 6 ft away. This, after he earned the Game Ball 3X in a row, and his friends wanted him to have it! He can fake his way through. </p><p> </p><p>I won't even begin to tell you how he has buffaloed his teachers and me over the yrs. That's where the psychoeducational testing came in handy, because it presented a true picture of his abilities and weaknesses.</p><p> </p><p>One caveat: never assume that just becasue Book XYZ says "This is bipolar," and BookABC says, "This is Asperger's," that if your child does not have ALL the signs, he is not one or the other. Those are <em>guidelines.</em> They often state the most obvious cases. Also, and most importantly, these are <em>spectrum</em> disorders. That means you can be high functioning, low functioning, somewhere in the middle, or have SOME of the signs but not all.</p><p> </p><p>It's also possible that he has something that we don't have a name for yet. (I often think that some dr will invent and name a disorder specific to my son, because he just doesn't fit everything. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> )</p><p> </p><p>Also, the fact that you know what bipolar looks like in an adult doesn't mean it's the same in a child... Unless you have very clear, specific memories of your siblings when they were 7.</p><p> </p><p>by the way, how did you get through your mutism? Were you tutored? (Doubtful, since you said you were undiagnosed) Or did you just muddle through? Do you recall anything specific in your development that helped you through it, a thought process or physical exercise, that you could teach your kids? I'm glad you like your psychologist and that your daughter is doing so well. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>Like I said, you are way ahead of the game. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 237393, member: 3419"] Hi AmyJasz, nice to meet you. Wow, are your kids lucky to have a Special Education teacher for a mom! Just on the face of it, I would also say your son is in the Aspie range ... although he could have both, since you have bipolar dxes in the family. It's something you may not know for many yrs. In the meantime, the fact that you are having testing done, and you have read The Explosive Child and put it to work for you, is excellent. You are way ahead of most newcomers here! Bravo. Frankly, I can't help but wonder if the fact that your son's Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire wasn't as clear-cut as it could have been, is because you have done all the right interventions so far. I mean, if your son were at my house, he could have tested way below. :) (I'm not a completely bad mom, I just didn't know that much about child devpmnt until recently. Sigh.) My son is "Aspie lite." He can be very socially appropriate, but only to a point. He never, ever meets anyone on his own. If he has to do it on his own, he has a fit. He will argue and literally brace his feet and legs like a stubborn donkey. But if I introduce them, or if he meets them in school, they can be best buddies. Yes, that is anxiety. But is anxiety the CAUSE, period, or is it the effect of Asperger's? I notice that when they do the huddle and cheer at the end of his baseball games, he does what he is supposed to do, then immediately backs out of the huddle and stands about 3 - 6 ft away. This, after he earned the Game Ball 3X in a row, and his friends wanted him to have it! He can fake his way through. I won't even begin to tell you how he has buffaloed his teachers and me over the yrs. That's where the psychoeducational testing came in handy, because it presented a true picture of his abilities and weaknesses. One caveat: never assume that just becasue Book XYZ says "This is bipolar," and BookABC says, "This is Asperger's," that if your child does not have ALL the signs, he is not one or the other. Those are [I]guidelines.[/I] They often state the most obvious cases. Also, and most importantly, these are [I]spectrum[/I] disorders. That means you can be high functioning, low functioning, somewhere in the middle, or have SOME of the signs but not all. It's also possible that he has something that we don't have a name for yet. (I often think that some dr will invent and name a disorder specific to my son, because he just doesn't fit everything. :) ) Also, the fact that you know what bipolar looks like in an adult doesn't mean it's the same in a child... Unless you have very clear, specific memories of your siblings when they were 7. by the way, how did you get through your mutism? Were you tutored? (Doubtful, since you said you were undiagnosed) Or did you just muddle through? Do you recall anything specific in your development that helped you through it, a thought process or physical exercise, that you could teach your kids? I'm glad you like your psychologist and that your daughter is doing so well. :) Like I said, you are way ahead of the game. :) [/QUOTE]
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