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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 704582" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Crayola, the entire family in my opinion should not have to go to without cable to make this young man move out. Why change the normal home for him?</p><p></p><p>Also he hardly sounds motivated enough even for culinary school. My daughter is a pastry chef who even taught for a bit and culinary is often pushed by parents of low achievers. Many of her students quit. When a grown kid is refusing to work, they dont tend to last in any sort of college program. They are too lazy. They want no demands made on their idle times. They want to smoke pot, party, do other drugs, etc.</p><p></p><p>It isn't hard to control the environment with young kids but adult kids will do what they want to do and we won't know. Trust me. I experienced it. Up until 12 is a cakewalk. 12 can be the beginning of awful. Eighteen is the beginning of no legal control. And the most irresponsible adult kids are the ones who tend to want no structure and no rules and lots of pot.</p><p></p><p>There is no way I'd deprive myself and hub and other kids of cable or anything we enjoy for an adult problem child. It's our home. Not to mention this man's mother is treating him as if he is a dependent child. I personally think he should be forced to stand on his own. Then he won't have cable unless he pays for it but the family will. Why punish them?</p><p></p><p>RE, I love all your posts. I do think pondering the options is the only way. And it's too hard to do alone. I forgot to mention Al Anon. Glad you did!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 704582, member: 1550"] Crayola, the entire family in my opinion should not have to go to without cable to make this young man move out. Why change the normal home for him? Also he hardly sounds motivated enough even for culinary school. My daughter is a pastry chef who even taught for a bit and culinary is often pushed by parents of low achievers. Many of her students quit. When a grown kid is refusing to work, they dont tend to last in any sort of college program. They are too lazy. They want no demands made on their idle times. They want to smoke pot, party, do other drugs, etc. It isn't hard to control the environment with young kids but adult kids will do what they want to do and we won't know. Trust me. I experienced it. Up until 12 is a cakewalk. 12 can be the beginning of awful. Eighteen is the beginning of no legal control. And the most irresponsible adult kids are the ones who tend to want no structure and no rules and lots of pot. There is no way I'd deprive myself and hub and other kids of cable or anything we enjoy for an adult problem child. It's our home. Not to mention this man's mother is treating him as if he is a dependent child. I personally think he should be forced to stand on his own. Then he won't have cable unless he pays for it but the family will. Why punish them? RE, I love all your posts. I do think pondering the options is the only way. And it's too hard to do alone. I forgot to mention Al Anon. Glad you did! [/QUOTE]
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