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<blockquote data-quote="WannabeAgoodFather" data-source="post: 705592" data-attributes="member: 21165"><p>OK. I survived the New Year's long weekend without drama. My stepson continues to avoid any contact with his mother as it has been for last few weeks. I found his room empty but light on and fan going on full speed on Friday again. I took the remote for the light and fan out of the room, told my wife I took it out. My wife agreed with my action as she has seen it happening for years and nothing changed.. She told me she was about to take the batteries out anyway... Well, my step son has not come to ask for remote where he was taking other remotes in the house to see if one of them works on his room's. Nothing... I guess mother had it enough talking to him as she gets stepped over again and again. As we sat in the living room watching TV, stepson came in and went out few times. However, he did not say anything but mumbled hi and bye to his mother. His mother did not even look at him and say things.. My wife did not tell me but I feel that she gave him an ultimatum of some sort and they fought. With my previous experience, mother told him to find a place to live or something similar and he must have said WHY. I just hope that my wife understands the fact that her son is making everyone in the house miserable. I do not want to put one person on the hot spot or blame on the particular person but that is exactly what happened. Before he came back, issues were very minimal and normal... Mother screaming at son on the phone as he would refuse to get a job at school but demanding money every week. For 2 year's party at school with academic suspension (He might have been kicked out due to low GPA and lack of credits, who knows), mother had to go back to work in 6 years as I refused to pay his loan and party money. We are still paying for his 2 year party stint. It is terrible... I wrote down key moments, incidents going back to his high school days just in case we have to sit down. He will say as he has always been that he's done nothing wrong. Unless I confront with facts at his face, he will not change his tone of his voice. </p><p></p><p>About 3 weeks ago, my wife told him in the kitchen, "Your step father got you the driver's permit (he could not pass a dummy online exam and failed 4 times and wasted hundreds of dollars so I did it with him next to me and passed), he bought you the nicest car for you (yes. I bought him a brand new car with fully loaded options), always gave you right advise. However, you screwed up every single time. With the car? we asked you very simple things but you could not even respect the simple rules. You had to go back to Florida to finish your senior year as you asked where you barely went to classes, junked another car. School? same thing. Your step father told you which classes to take and told you step by step. He even told you that you could take Summer classes at a local community college to pass few classes you could not pass at your own school. He tried to help you all the time but you had never showed an effort. When you had to come home after being kicked out of school, we really expected that you would come back with your tail in between your legs and apologize. However, your attitude was ridiculous, totally opposite and you still do not listen to what I say.. You had another chance to prove yourself when you went to Cape. However, that was another party time extended and you got kicked out from your own aunts, grandpa and grandma. There has been nothing positive that you showed to me in years. You did all this. You had everything. You could have become anything you wished for. There have been so much support from everyone but you never took anything seriously!!!!!..." She went on and on for a while. </p><p></p><p>My wife had sore throat over the weekend so we did not have to go out on New Year's eve. Everything went smoothly and there was no fight. Thank god... There will be another thing coming up as schools will start soon and he will not be going to one as mother clearly mentioned that going to a school was one of the rules... His excuses for the last 2 years will no longer applicable and have expired in my humble opinion. That was one of the main focus from my wife, to get him back to school which he has no interest.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WannabeAgoodFather, post: 705592, member: 21165"] OK. I survived the New Year's long weekend without drama. My stepson continues to avoid any contact with his mother as it has been for last few weeks. I found his room empty but light on and fan going on full speed on Friday again. I took the remote for the light and fan out of the room, told my wife I took it out. My wife agreed with my action as she has seen it happening for years and nothing changed.. She told me she was about to take the batteries out anyway... Well, my step son has not come to ask for remote where he was taking other remotes in the house to see if one of them works on his room's. Nothing... I guess mother had it enough talking to him as she gets stepped over again and again. As we sat in the living room watching TV, stepson came in and went out few times. However, he did not say anything but mumbled hi and bye to his mother. His mother did not even look at him and say things.. My wife did not tell me but I feel that she gave him an ultimatum of some sort and they fought. With my previous experience, mother told him to find a place to live or something similar and he must have said WHY. I just hope that my wife understands the fact that her son is making everyone in the house miserable. I do not want to put one person on the hot spot or blame on the particular person but that is exactly what happened. Before he came back, issues were very minimal and normal... Mother screaming at son on the phone as he would refuse to get a job at school but demanding money every week. For 2 year's party at school with academic suspension (He might have been kicked out due to low GPA and lack of credits, who knows), mother had to go back to work in 6 years as I refused to pay his loan and party money. We are still paying for his 2 year party stint. It is terrible... I wrote down key moments, incidents going back to his high school days just in case we have to sit down. He will say as he has always been that he's done nothing wrong. Unless I confront with facts at his face, he will not change his tone of his voice. About 3 weeks ago, my wife told him in the kitchen, "Your step father got you the driver's permit (he could not pass a dummy online exam and failed 4 times and wasted hundreds of dollars so I did it with him next to me and passed), he bought you the nicest car for you (yes. I bought him a brand new car with fully loaded options), always gave you right advise. However, you screwed up every single time. With the car? we asked you very simple things but you could not even respect the simple rules. You had to go back to Florida to finish your senior year as you asked where you barely went to classes, junked another car. School? same thing. Your step father told you which classes to take and told you step by step. He even told you that you could take Summer classes at a local community college to pass few classes you could not pass at your own school. He tried to help you all the time but you had never showed an effort. When you had to come home after being kicked out of school, we really expected that you would come back with your tail in between your legs and apologize. However, your attitude was ridiculous, totally opposite and you still do not listen to what I say.. You had another chance to prove yourself when you went to Cape. However, that was another party time extended and you got kicked out from your own aunts, grandpa and grandma. There has been nothing positive that you showed to me in years. You did all this. You had everything. You could have become anything you wished for. There have been so much support from everyone but you never took anything seriously!!!!!..." She went on and on for a while. My wife had sore throat over the weekend so we did not have to go out on New Year's eve. Everything went smoothly and there was no fight. Thank god... There will be another thing coming up as schools will start soon and he will not be going to one as mother clearly mentioned that going to a school was one of the rules... His excuses for the last 2 years will no longer applicable and have expired in my humble opinion. That was one of the main focus from my wife, to get him back to school which he has no interest. [/QUOTE]
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