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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 493502" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Mary, does he have friends? How does he do socially in school? I hope you stop looking at ODD on the internet for now. So many of us have heard that about our kids and only to later have it thrown out. It really does not help other than to say that for some reason... a reason that you have yet to fully investigate, your son is struggling right now. </p><p></p><p>the tv/shower issue... sounds like he has a hard time going from a preferred activity to a less preferred activity. when you start recording behaviors and looking at patterns it will be much more helpful to you. If this is an issue, it may be that your son would do well with really structured schedules. Personalized ones (schools often have them on the board, but they can have a picture schedule for your son and check off each step or flip pages to the next activity to show him before the transition time etc. when kids can spend some time wrapping their heads around what will happen visually not just hru listening skills, they often do much better. </p><p></p><p>BUT any time you start a new behavior plan, children usually INCREASE the neg. behavior first then it gets better. it is just a common behavioral principle. </p><p></p><p>I have had many students who did well up until school time. Once the demands of school plus the transitions between environments become bigger, the child struggles more. Another idea is that if he started struggling in school fairly quickly then it is likely there is some issue going on in that kind of setting (Learning Disability (LD), motor issues, adhd, social skill issues, language processing, auditory processing, sensory, who knows.. to be determined) that has now got him so frustrated that he can't maintain in any environment. think of an adult who HATES their job. They are miserable everywhere. It is just an idea.... </p><p></p><p>Just because a dr says that there is a diagnosis does not make it so forever. All that means is that in that setting given the information you shared and without the benefit of a full evaluation by people who can help you to see if there are other developmental and learning issues, this diagnosis matches what you are describing that you see. If you get too hung up on the ODD part of this you may read things that really are saying that kids with these serious behavior issues had odd diagnosis before the new behavior diagnosis. But the fact is many kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ADHD, Bi-Polar, Learning Disability (LD), and many other diagnosis also have ODD mentioned for them at first until the real problem is sorted through. Just offering hope, I really feel you owe it to yourself and your son to look at a complete ability, skill, and physical/neurological/biochemical assessment with a neuropsychologist. I hope there is a way for you to access that through a child development clinic or childrens hospital in your area. </p><p></p><p>OR, you can come stay with me! I'll host you while you get one done here, lol.... I am sure that would be really inexpensive, (not). </p><p></p><p>HUGS to you.... love, Dee</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 493502, member: 12886"] Mary, does he have friends? How does he do socially in school? I hope you stop looking at ODD on the internet for now. So many of us have heard that about our kids and only to later have it thrown out. It really does not help other than to say that for some reason... a reason that you have yet to fully investigate, your son is struggling right now. the tv/shower issue... sounds like he has a hard time going from a preferred activity to a less preferred activity. when you start recording behaviors and looking at patterns it will be much more helpful to you. If this is an issue, it may be that your son would do well with really structured schedules. Personalized ones (schools often have them on the board, but they can have a picture schedule for your son and check off each step or flip pages to the next activity to show him before the transition time etc. when kids can spend some time wrapping their heads around what will happen visually not just hru listening skills, they often do much better. BUT any time you start a new behavior plan, children usually INCREASE the neg. behavior first then it gets better. it is just a common behavioral principle. I have had many students who did well up until school time. Once the demands of school plus the transitions between environments become bigger, the child struggles more. Another idea is that if he started struggling in school fairly quickly then it is likely there is some issue going on in that kind of setting (Learning Disability (LD), motor issues, adhd, social skill issues, language processing, auditory processing, sensory, who knows.. to be determined) that has now got him so frustrated that he can't maintain in any environment. think of an adult who HATES their job. They are miserable everywhere. It is just an idea.... Just because a dr says that there is a diagnosis does not make it so forever. All that means is that in that setting given the information you shared and without the benefit of a full evaluation by people who can help you to see if there are other developmental and learning issues, this diagnosis matches what you are describing that you see. If you get too hung up on the ODD part of this you may read things that really are saying that kids with these serious behavior issues had odd diagnosis before the new behavior diagnosis. But the fact is many kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ADHD, Bi-Polar, Learning Disability (LD), and many other diagnosis also have ODD mentioned for them at first until the real problem is sorted through. Just offering hope, I really feel you owe it to yourself and your son to look at a complete ability, skill, and physical/neurological/biochemical assessment with a neuropsychologist. I hope there is a way for you to access that through a child development clinic or childrens hospital in your area. OR, you can come stay with me! I'll host you while you get one done here, lol.... I am sure that would be really inexpensive, (not). HUGS to you.... love, Dee [/QUOTE]
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