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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 494415" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>OK that is a whole new level.... I thought this at first but her early history didn't really match since you said she was with you for the first 4 years. Were you and her dad happy during that time or was she a premie or any other pain or health issues with her early on (I am talking birth to 3 ...some say 5...years old)</p><p></p><p>Here is a site you may want to check out....</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.radkid.org/" target="_blank">RadKid.Org: Reactive Attachment Disorder & Detachment Issues</a></p><p></p><p>Your daughter may not be bonded to you. It happens for many reasons. Most commonly people think of it with adoption and orphanages. They now know that some people are born that way... pregnancy issues, early illnesses that cause separation or pain, many innocent things that just happen and interfere with bonding. Including colic, (or whatever causes colic), painful reflux that no one can help the baby feel better, sensory issues that no one knew about so the child suffered, etc.... Many many issues. </p><p></p><p>Has she ever set fires? Is she obsessed with blood and gore? she kills pets, steals, tells crazy lies, makes false abuse reports, etc... these are symptoms of someone who has not connected with other people well. she does not feel for others. Some of these kids actually do end up having serious life long antisocial lives so it would be very very important to have the appropriate therapy (and it takes a specialist to work with this) ...many therapists will say they get this but they dont. They can even do more damage (which sounds like has already happened as people bought into her stuff and pulled you apart more...that is what happens when you have a mental health person who buys into these kids when they manipulate so much). </p><p></p><p>here are other sites you may want to check out....</p><p></p><p></p><p><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactive_attachment_disorder" target="_blank">Reactive attachment disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia</a></p><p></p><p>My son has some attachment issues, he is not as far on the spectrum of this as it sounds like your daughter is but we knew early and got help thank heaven. He still will tell crazy lies and accuse me of things. He doesn't hurt our pets now but when very young he did misunderstand our cat's facial expressions and put him in a drawer because he hurt his feelings...sigh. (he is also brain injured and autistic so many things played into that) </p><p></p><p>There are others here who have had their kids hurt or kill pets. YOU ARE NOT ALONE in this!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 494415, member: 12886"] OK that is a whole new level.... I thought this at first but her early history didn't really match since you said she was with you for the first 4 years. Were you and her dad happy during that time or was she a premie or any other pain or health issues with her early on (I am talking birth to 3 ...some say 5...years old) Here is a site you may want to check out.... [URL='http://www.radkid.org/']RadKid.Org: Reactive Attachment Disorder & Detachment Issues[/URL] Your daughter may not be bonded to you. It happens for many reasons. Most commonly people think of it with adoption and orphanages. They now know that some people are born that way... pregnancy issues, early illnesses that cause separation or pain, many innocent things that just happen and interfere with bonding. Including colic, (or whatever causes colic), painful reflux that no one can help the baby feel better, sensory issues that no one knew about so the child suffered, etc.... Many many issues. Has she ever set fires? Is she obsessed with blood and gore? she kills pets, steals, tells crazy lies, makes false abuse reports, etc... these are symptoms of someone who has not connected with other people well. she does not feel for others. Some of these kids actually do end up having serious life long antisocial lives so it would be very very important to have the appropriate therapy (and it takes a specialist to work with this) ...many therapists will say they get this but they dont. They can even do more damage (which sounds like has already happened as people bought into her stuff and pulled you apart more...that is what happens when you have a mental health person who buys into these kids when they manipulate so much). here are other sites you may want to check out.... [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactive_attachment_disorder']Reactive attachment disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia[/URL] My son has some attachment issues, he is not as far on the spectrum of this as it sounds like your daughter is but we knew early and got help thank heaven. He still will tell crazy lies and accuse me of things. He doesn't hurt our pets now but when very young he did misunderstand our cat's facial expressions and put him in a drawer because he hurt his feelings...sigh. (he is also brain injured and autistic so many things played into that) There are others here who have had their kids hurt or kill pets. YOU ARE NOT ALONE in this!!! [/QUOTE]
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