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<blockquote data-quote="Iamwipedouttoo" data-source="post: 300274" data-attributes="member: 7829"><p>Thanks for all the great input and advice.</p><p> </p><p>I noticed I forgot to mention she'll be turning 18 next summer so we don't have a lot of time but we have some. She is allegedly very willing to try to work on being better about things but still flip flops between being angry and relieved with the diagnosis so we'll see where that all plays in as we try to move forward. Ugh.</p><p> </p><p>I'll definately ask difficult child more about how the medications make her feel. Thanks for bringing that up. When she first started taking them she said that she noticed she said she felt better able to slow down and think before she reacted. Then insert friend of hers who takes the same medications who told her that he felt like he wasn't his normal fun self while taking the medication. After her friend imparted his wisdom, I noticed she was annoyed with the idea of having to be on medication (understandable) and I noticed when I would ask how the medications made her feel every day she was getting aggravated so I have let it go the past week and a half to avoid a conflict but I see your point in getting her to be more aware of what the medications do for her so I'm going to broach the subject with her again and see where she is at.</p><p> </p><p>She's also been getting upset when I offer suggestions to help her stay organized - even when I ask if she wants my advice first and she says yes. She claims she knows what she needs to do and isn't "stupid". Though I try to explain that offering suggestions to help isn't me saying she is stupid, she sees it this way. I guess that will be something she can work out with her therapist. I left it as, well, when you want my help, you let me know.</p><p> </p><p>I know she is struggling with the diagnosis itself and I can't blame her. It doesn't help that dad doesn't accept it and has no problem saying so. I really wish he would read some of the things I've been reading and come here to read what you all have shared. I'll keep working on him. He's threatened to not come to therapy with us when we all go because he feels the whole thing is just ridiculous.</p><p> </p><p>I hope he'll come around but right now he's just done and thinks I should be to. I'm sorry, though, she's my child and I can't turn my back on her like that, though I should probably be prepared for the fact that even with all we are doing to help it might not. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>I'm mentally exhausted.</p><p> </p><p>On a positive note, I did get to spend some quality time with my son last night and am looking forward to some more tonight with both of my other kids since difficult child has to work. Our home is so peaceful without the stress she adds. I feel like a horrible parent when I say that but it is so true.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Iamwipedouttoo, post: 300274, member: 7829"] Thanks for all the great input and advice. I noticed I forgot to mention she'll be turning 18 next summer so we don't have a lot of time but we have some. She is allegedly very willing to try to work on being better about things but still flip flops between being angry and relieved with the diagnosis so we'll see where that all plays in as we try to move forward. Ugh. I'll definately ask difficult child more about how the medications make her feel. Thanks for bringing that up. When she first started taking them she said that she noticed she said she felt better able to slow down and think before she reacted. Then insert friend of hers who takes the same medications who told her that he felt like he wasn't his normal fun self while taking the medication. After her friend imparted his wisdom, I noticed she was annoyed with the idea of having to be on medication (understandable) and I noticed when I would ask how the medications made her feel every day she was getting aggravated so I have let it go the past week and a half to avoid a conflict but I see your point in getting her to be more aware of what the medications do for her so I'm going to broach the subject with her again and see where she is at. She's also been getting upset when I offer suggestions to help her stay organized - even when I ask if she wants my advice first and she says yes. She claims she knows what she needs to do and isn't "stupid". Though I try to explain that offering suggestions to help isn't me saying she is stupid, she sees it this way. I guess that will be something she can work out with her therapist. I left it as, well, when you want my help, you let me know. I know she is struggling with the diagnosis itself and I can't blame her. It doesn't help that dad doesn't accept it and has no problem saying so. I really wish he would read some of the things I've been reading and come here to read what you all have shared. I'll keep working on him. He's threatened to not come to therapy with us when we all go because he feels the whole thing is just ridiculous. I hope he'll come around but right now he's just done and thinks I should be to. I'm sorry, though, she's my child and I can't turn my back on her like that, though I should probably be prepared for the fact that even with all we are doing to help it might not. :frowny: I'm mentally exhausted. On a positive note, I did get to spend some quality time with my son last night and am looking forward to some more tonight with both of my other kids since difficult child has to work. Our home is so peaceful without the stress she adds. I feel like a horrible parent when I say that but it is so true. [/QUOTE]
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