Hi Kalahou. I am facing the same situation. My 34 year old son is in jail and did convince the court to release him to my house until trial ( without my Imput or permission). It is cold and snowy where we are so against my better judgment we let him stay with us. He lasted 2 days before using drugs and being kicked out of our home. I contacted the court to let them know and was drug into the drama of the situation farther than I was comfortable with. He came to my home on Monday. Stayed mon & Tuesday
Wednesday he had an excuse why he wasn't here and Thursday he got money from is disability payee and went off the rails. Sunday he overdosed. I don't know whether your son has drug or alcohol issues but for now jail is the safest place for my son. I understand the wavering and not being sure how to react. I haven't accepted my sons calls because he was verbally abusive when I told him I wouldn't help him bail out. I did set up a visitation for Tuesday but we are expecting a major winter storm so I probably won't visit him
I can't give you any advice, but leafy is right. Take time to breathe and let yourself feel what is right for you and your situation. We are sisters in this journey and making our way the best way we know how.