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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 680411" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>I'm sorry you have had so much on your plate and house guests and grandchildren to entertain while your heart is heavy with worry.</p><p></p><p>If it were me, wouldn't visit for a while. I think when our kids are in jail, then need to really think, be alone, not be rewarded by our visits, at least for a time. It needs to hurt for them, for them to feel the loss of everything. They can't feel that if we are running to them right away. If you decide to visit, you don't have to do it right away even if you decide to do so. Take your time. Remember how everything in their life is an emergency, they tell us to do it now, putting us in panic mode, up-heaving our lives. So, this is your time, to take whatever time you need to make that decision to visit or not; if you do, you get to decide when, not him.</p><p></p><p>I didn't visit my son in jail he was in for 2 months. I did fund his phone account and commissary account so he could get hygiene products, snacks, paper and pen because he would write his bible scriptures out and journalize. </p><p></p><p>He was only allowed to call me, his christian friend, and his aunt. I did find out that do trades for phone cards and he did call his crack whore girlfriend from jail. She promptly reported it and her phone number got blocked at the jail. Oh the things we learn about jail from our Difficult Child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 680411, member: 19951"] I'm sorry you have had so much on your plate and house guests and grandchildren to entertain while your heart is heavy with worry. If it were me, wouldn't visit for a while. I think when our kids are in jail, then need to really think, be alone, not be rewarded by our visits, at least for a time. It needs to hurt for them, for them to feel the loss of everything. They can't feel that if we are running to them right away. If you decide to visit, you don't have to do it right away even if you decide to do so. Take your time. Remember how everything in their life is an emergency, they tell us to do it now, putting us in panic mode, up-heaving our lives. So, this is your time, to take whatever time you need to make that decision to visit or not; if you do, you get to decide when, not him. I didn't visit my son in jail he was in for 2 months. I did fund his phone account and commissary account so he could get hygiene products, snacks, paper and pen because he would write his bible scriptures out and journalize. He was only allowed to call me, his christian friend, and his aunt. I did find out that do trades for phone cards and he did call his crack whore girlfriend from jail. She promptly reported it and her phone number got blocked at the jail. Oh the things we learn about jail from our Difficult Child. [/QUOTE]
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