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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 621664"><p>I have a huge problem with the various laws in this country which completely contradict each other regarding the "age of independence."</p><p></p><p>I fill out the FAFSA for pc19's merit scholarship. The scholarship isn't need based, the FAFSA is just a formality that the school needs to meet federal reporting guidelines. In return, the FAFSA gives me an "expected parental contribution" toward my son's education. It's a ridiculous amount of money as a percent of our income and I really don't like the use of the term "expected". Especially when you consider that detailed parental financial information that computes the "expected parental contribution" - is required UNTIL AGE 26 for this Federal Financial Aid form. I know I've complained before, but it incenses me that for the purpose of collegiate financial aid - my son is a basically a dependent until age 26. I also get incensed that I am expected to provide that incredibly detailed & personal financial information to my son for the form. Now, it's for my easy child and I have no concerns about him - but it would really bother me on a practical level if it were necessary for difficult child. And we all know difficult child has taken advantage of his "expected parental contribution to tuition" more than once and basically we threw thousands of dollars into the wind.</p><p></p><p>The same holds true for my health insurance. I am so glad difficult child can stay on until age 26 for practical reasons, however I don't like the contradictory definition of dependent.</p><p></p><p>Especially when you consider that magically - at age 18 - I am completely and legally cut off from any information regarding my child's health or performance in school. Even High School since both pc17 and difficult child have March birthdays! My sons' universities cannot even tell me if they attend class. If the tuition I pay gets refunded - it is refunded in my son's name, not my own. It's not uncommon at some schools for kids to sign up for expensive meal plans and then downgrade after room and board is paid and to receive a refund check. I can't even dispute a medical bill - even though I pay the insurance & the doctor for an 18+ dependent! It's funny though - they have no problem if I dispute it for husband! PC19 was home last weekend and asked me to order his acne medications for him to pick up while here and the closest Walgreens was out of the specific medication and I COULD NOT ASK THEM TO SWITCH THE RX TO A NEIGHBORING WALGREENS PHARMACY because PC19 is over age 18! (H called and said he was easy child and they switched it)</p><p></p><p>Also, difficult child has not legally changed his address to his apartment. Accordingly, I cannot remove him from our car insurance even though he doesn't have a car and he hasn't slept here since Christmas eve. Technically, our homeowners or car insurance could have to pay if he were to get sued. (We are working on a solution)</p><p></p><p>I know in some states with strict eviction laws - you cannot allow your child to stay a day past their 18th birthday or you risk having to evict them under eviction laws which require a court order and can take months. I don't know if that's what happened here - but that could be a reason to ask a child to leave at age 18. How many times have we seen our board sisters held hostage in their own homes by a difficult child hell bent on creating havoc?</p><p></p><p>It's the HYPOCRISY of these laws that bothers me the most. FERPA and FAFSA should have equal standards. Same with HIPAA and Health Insurance. They are either our dependents or they are not. The law shouldn't have it both ways.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 621664"] I have a huge problem with the various laws in this country which completely contradict each other regarding the "age of independence." I fill out the FAFSA for pc19's merit scholarship. The scholarship isn't need based, the FAFSA is just a formality that the school needs to meet federal reporting guidelines. In return, the FAFSA gives me an "expected parental contribution" toward my son's education. It's a ridiculous amount of money as a percent of our income and I really don't like the use of the term "expected". Especially when you consider that detailed parental financial information that computes the "expected parental contribution" - is required UNTIL AGE 26 for this Federal Financial Aid form. I know I've complained before, but it incenses me that for the purpose of collegiate financial aid - my son is a basically a dependent until age 26. I also get incensed that I am expected to provide that incredibly detailed & personal financial information to my son for the form. Now, it's for my easy child and I have no concerns about him - but it would really bother me on a practical level if it were necessary for difficult child. And we all know difficult child has taken advantage of his "expected parental contribution to tuition" more than once and basically we threw thousands of dollars into the wind. The same holds true for my health insurance. I am so glad difficult child can stay on until age 26 for practical reasons, however I don't like the contradictory definition of dependent. Especially when you consider that magically - at age 18 - I am completely and legally cut off from any information regarding my child's health or performance in school. Even High School since both pc17 and difficult child have March birthdays! My sons' universities cannot even tell me if they attend class. If the tuition I pay gets refunded - it is refunded in my son's name, not my own. It's not uncommon at some schools for kids to sign up for expensive meal plans and then downgrade after room and board is paid and to receive a refund check. I can't even dispute a medical bill - even though I pay the insurance & the doctor for an 18+ dependent! It's funny though - they have no problem if I dispute it for husband! PC19 was home last weekend and asked me to order his acne medications for him to pick up while here and the closest Walgreens was out of the specific medication and I COULD NOT ASK THEM TO SWITCH THE RX TO A NEIGHBORING WALGREENS PHARMACY because PC19 is over age 18! (H called and said he was easy child and they switched it) Also, difficult child has not legally changed his address to his apartment. Accordingly, I cannot remove him from our car insurance even though he doesn't have a car and he hasn't slept here since Christmas eve. Technically, our homeowners or car insurance could have to pay if he were to get sued. (We are working on a solution) I know in some states with strict eviction laws - you cannot allow your child to stay a day past their 18th birthday or you risk having to evict them under eviction laws which require a court order and can take months. I don't know if that's what happened here - but that could be a reason to ask a child to leave at age 18. How many times have we seen our board sisters held hostage in their own homes by a difficult child hell bent on creating havoc? It's the HYPOCRISY of these laws that bothers me the most. FERPA and FAFSA should have equal standards. Same with HIPAA and Health Insurance. They are either our dependents or they are not. The law shouldn't have it both ways. [/QUOTE]
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