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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 648383" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I love the mother-truth in this.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is true for me too, Echo. (I am so happy to see you again!) For me, it happens that I see it first in something someone here will post. </p><p></p><p>And then, I see myself and my story there, too. </p><p></p><p>But I can only see it when I can see it.</p><p></p><p>I am coming to understand that dark little fascination I feel with some posts means that I am reading my story in someone else's life. When that happens to me now, I keep after it until I can see it.</p><p></p><p>ouch</p><p></p><p>It is very hard to see ourselves and our families in a real way.</p><p></p><p>It is almost impossibly hard to see what happens to our children by their own choice without judging them for it. <em>How dare they do what they have done to the lives of my children.</em> </p><p></p><p>Since we cannot turn them around (and since they are so freaking mean to us in the things they say and the way they blame and manipulate us to get money and sympathy to the point that we cannot trust a word that comes out of their mouths) we turn our hostility onto ourselves.</p><p></p><p>I do that.</p><p></p><p>It isn't working well.</p><p></p><p>I literally cannot change a thing for them. I love them. I am vulnerable to them because I love them, and I always will be. That is why this business of turning away or pretending it doesn't matter that my children are suffering isn't working for me. </p><p></p><p>They are suffering.</p><p></p><p>I do love them, so much.</p><p></p><p>It is impossible for me to reconcile what is.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>P.S. But it is very nice to see you, again!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 648383, member: 17461"] I love the mother-truth in this. This is true for me too, Echo. (I am so happy to see you again!) For me, it happens that I see it first in something someone here will post. And then, I see myself and my story there, too. But I can only see it when I can see it. I am coming to understand that dark little fascination I feel with some posts means that I am reading my story in someone else's life. When that happens to me now, I keep after it until I can see it. ouch It is very hard to see ourselves and our families in a real way. It is almost impossibly hard to see what happens to our children by their own choice without judging them for it. [I]How dare they do what they have done to the lives of my children.[/I] Since we cannot turn them around (and since they are so freaking mean to us in the things they say and the way they blame and manipulate us to get money and sympathy to the point that we cannot trust a word that comes out of their mouths) we turn our hostility onto ourselves. I do that. It isn't working well. I literally cannot change a thing for them. I love them. I am vulnerable to them because I love them, and I always will be. That is why this business of turning away or pretending it doesn't matter that my children are suffering isn't working for me. They are suffering. I do love them, so much. It is impossible for me to reconcile what is. Cedar P.S. But it is very nice to see you, again! [/QUOTE]
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