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No, Chaosuncontained, I'M a monster...
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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 481696" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Exactly. When we adopted the little demons out of foster care, we had such high hopes, didn't we? When we were screaming at DCFS to help us when Kanga was at her worst and we needed funding to get her out of our home, a clinical level (about 3 levels above the regular workers) told me that this generation of foster-adopt kids (the ones now 14-20) have far more severe needs than anyone realized when they pushed them all into adoptive homes. So many of them are broken beyond current psychiatrists abilities to repair, and so many of them are homicidal to their families. (We were the 3rd family with a 13 year old girl to meet with her that week -- she was an angel and got all 3 into RTCs.) </p><p></p><p>You are NOT a monster. You are a normal mother, reacting to abnormal children and daily levels of stress equal to those of a soldier in Vietnam. </p><p></p><p>How far away is she from 18? Check with your local laws, unless you are in New York you will be able to evict her soon. Since eviction proceedings take time, it may be safer for you to pay her rent somewhere for a month so she 'voluntarily' moves out on her birthday. Then change all the locks and get an alarm system. </p><p></p><p>Are difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 as bad as Screamo with the violence?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 481696, member: 1169"] Exactly. When we adopted the little demons out of foster care, we had such high hopes, didn't we? When we were screaming at DCFS to help us when Kanga was at her worst and we needed funding to get her out of our home, a clinical level (about 3 levels above the regular workers) told me that this generation of foster-adopt kids (the ones now 14-20) have far more severe needs than anyone realized when they pushed them all into adoptive homes. So many of them are broken beyond current psychiatrists abilities to repair, and so many of them are homicidal to their families. (We were the 3rd family with a 13 year old girl to meet with her that week -- she was an angel and got all 3 into RTCs.) You are NOT a monster. You are a normal mother, reacting to abnormal children and daily levels of stress equal to those of a soldier in Vietnam. How far away is she from 18? Check with your local laws, unless you are in New York you will be able to evict her soon. Since eviction proceedings take time, it may be safer for you to pay her rent somewhere for a month so she 'voluntarily' moves out on her birthday. Then change all the locks and get an alarm system. Are difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 as bad as Screamo with the violence? [/QUOTE]
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