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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 759713" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p>..</p><p><em>LauraH, I have gone no contact when my daughter was 28, like Copa, I had to do it as a matter of life or death for me. I could not put up with her not one more second. I went for three months and then a hurricane was coming, one of the biggest and strongest ones on record, she lived in an apartment and I had to call her and ask her to come to my house where it was safe. I did not want to do it but at the time it was the right thing to do. We started to talk again.</em></p><p><em>I was out of town on business Sept. 2008 in Los Angeles when another hurricane was getting ready to hit my city, my husband called our daughter over to stay with him until the storm passed. I could not take any flights home (air ports closed) so I decided to take a train. I had talked to my daughter on the cell phone earlier to tell her I was going to take the train out of Los Angeles, at the last minute I decided not to take the train and wait a few days in Los Angeles until they opened the airports in my city. I had turned my cell off, meanwhile in Los Angeles the train my daughter thought I took out wrecked killing 25 people. When I turned on my cell there were many missed calls from my daughter, she had been watching the news and thought I was on the train and since I did not answer she thought I had died. I called her back and she was sobbing so hard I could hardly hear her. </em></p><p><em>When I got home she was happy to see me. I told her that life is too short and too unpredictable to treat me or anyone else for that matter so ugly, she agreed and things went better for a while.</em></p><p><em>I had to recently cut contact with her last July... I could not take it. I did not just cut her off I told her I was taking a break from her on going nonsense but she could still text me. I did this for a couple of months. It is very hard to do but it is better than the constant drama.</em></p><p><em>It takes a lot of strength. One of the reason it took me so long to cut contact because I was afraid she was going to die. But I told myself, our relationship was like a living death anyway.. Without contact I do not have to listen to the constant up and down roller coaster drama lifestyle and me being afraid to lose her is just what she is banking on to keep me stuck as her slave. I was the worst enabler.</em></p><p><em>I am going to tell you that I cried at least 3-4 times a day breaking down at work, sobbing while driving home from work to the point I could not see straight but I regained my self respect and dignity.. It was worth it and it will be worth it for you too.</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 759713, member: 22416"] .. [I]LauraH, I have gone no contact when my daughter was 28, like Copa, I had to do it as a matter of life or death for me. I could not put up with her not one more second. I went for three months and then a hurricane was coming, one of the biggest and strongest ones on record, she lived in an apartment and I had to call her and ask her to come to my house where it was safe. I did not want to do it but at the time it was the right thing to do. We started to talk again. I was out of town on business Sept. 2008 in Los Angeles when another hurricane was getting ready to hit my city, my husband called our daughter over to stay with him until the storm passed. I could not take any flights home (air ports closed) so I decided to take a train. I had talked to my daughter on the cell phone earlier to tell her I was going to take the train out of Los Angeles, at the last minute I decided not to take the train and wait a few days in Los Angeles until they opened the airports in my city. I had turned my cell off, meanwhile in Los Angeles the train my daughter thought I took out wrecked killing 25 people. When I turned on my cell there were many missed calls from my daughter, she had been watching the news and thought I was on the train and since I did not answer she thought I had died. I called her back and she was sobbing so hard I could hardly hear her. When I got home she was happy to see me. I told her that life is too short and too unpredictable to treat me or anyone else for that matter so ugly, she agreed and things went better for a while. I had to recently cut contact with her last July... I could not take it. I did not just cut her off I told her I was taking a break from her on going nonsense but she could still text me. I did this for a couple of months. It is very hard to do but it is better than the constant drama. It takes a lot of strength. One of the reason it took me so long to cut contact because I was afraid she was going to die. But I told myself, our relationship was like a living death anyway.. Without contact I do not have to listen to the constant up and down roller coaster drama lifestyle and me being afraid to lose her is just what she is banking on to keep me stuck as her slave. I was the worst enabler. I am going to tell you that I cried at least 3-4 times a day breaking down at work, sobbing while driving home from work to the point I could not see straight but I regained my self respect and dignity.. It was worth it and it will be worth it for you too.[/I] [/QUOTE]
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