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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 342603" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Thank you all. I can see that I'm in good company. Sigh.</p><p> </p><p>I know. WHY do they CHOOSE to do that?</p><p> </p><p>I don't know that this is an attachment issue, or if it is, it is overlaid by the "in the moment anger," in this case, the fact that I did not call Friend H, along with-all the other people I called. Never mind that they wouldn't have been available. It was MY FAULT that difficult child had to go with-us and therefore, I would be punished.</p><p> </p><p>It's simple cause and effect to him.</p><p> </p><p>What I don't get is that if it's simple cause and effect for the blame on mom, why can't it be simple cause and effect for his being restricted when he does something wrong? It's like he can dish it out but he can't take it.</p><p>I guess that's part of being an Aspie. He can only see the world from his perspective. Why bother seeing it from another perspective when it doesn't exist?</p><p> </p><p>I want to know what Temple Grandin's mother did to teach her consequences. Or maybe Temple was just somehow able to observe more objectively. </p><p> </p><p>Arrrggghhh! I'm sick of analyzing. I need a strategy!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 342603, member: 3419"] Thank you all. I can see that I'm in good company. Sigh. I know. WHY do they CHOOSE to do that? I don't know that this is an attachment issue, or if it is, it is overlaid by the "in the moment anger," in this case, the fact that I did not call Friend H, along with-all the other people I called. Never mind that they wouldn't have been available. It was MY FAULT that difficult child had to go with-us and therefore, I would be punished. It's simple cause and effect to him. What I don't get is that if it's simple cause and effect for the blame on mom, why can't it be simple cause and effect for his being restricted when he does something wrong? It's like he can dish it out but he can't take it. I guess that's part of being an Aspie. He can only see the world from his perspective. Why bother seeing it from another perspective when it doesn't exist? I want to know what Temple Grandin's mother did to teach her consequences. Or maybe Temple was just somehow able to observe more objectively. Arrrggghhh! I'm sick of analyzing. I need a strategy! [/QUOTE]
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