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No Ho-Ho-Ho’s this year..
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<blockquote data-quote="Toomanytears" data-source="post: 754479" data-attributes="member: 22580"><p>Leafy, I don’t know where the last 20 years have gone.. no kidding. We have been so fully consumed by our adult children. Years never to get back. We deal with the guilt of all the years trying to help our son (25 to be exact) and realizing many times that we weren’t “ helping” at all. This is a huge disadvantage for daughter. She doesn’t understand how we can not stick with her through this ordeal and we’ve explained we have learned a LOT and we won’t allow her to be supported by us in any way. She was here 2 days ago, knowing full well that she came for the gifts ( which she vehemently denied) - they were very useful gifts ( socks, underwear, bathroom supplies for her bathroom) but she left her home. She has no use for these gifts. Her dad gave her restaurant gift cards and some cash which I made perfectly clear the funds were from her Dad...and I disagreed. I asked her what she’s been doing, ( did lose her job), and asked if she talked to her Uncle. She said to me that she doesn’t need to answer my questions. She did however, tell me that she went “off the grid” so we wouldn’t know if she was alive or ok. I looked right at her and asked her why she dislikes us so much that she would want us to be sick with worry? No answer. I finally looked at her and said, “ why are you still here?” She looked at me. I repeated it. She got up, took her gifts and left. No goodbyes, nothing. I did break down today and wish her a Merry Christmas. I did receive a “ u too” response. I guess it’s time to tow in the line and stick to our guns. The irony, our son calls from prison and he’s doing pretty good. He’s reached out to her and she’s not picking up. That speaks volumes. I guess it’s time to give her what she wants .. time, space and no contact. This is certainly a Christmas with few memories to want to remember. We are absolutely blessed beyond measure so I guess we will run with that and try not to look back... blessings to you all...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Toomanytears, post: 754479, member: 22580"] Leafy, I don’t know where the last 20 years have gone.. no kidding. We have been so fully consumed by our adult children. Years never to get back. We deal with the guilt of all the years trying to help our son (25 to be exact) and realizing many times that we weren’t “ helping” at all. This is a huge disadvantage for daughter. She doesn’t understand how we can not stick with her through this ordeal and we’ve explained we have learned a LOT and we won’t allow her to be supported by us in any way. She was here 2 days ago, knowing full well that she came for the gifts ( which she vehemently denied) - they were very useful gifts ( socks, underwear, bathroom supplies for her bathroom) but she left her home. She has no use for these gifts. Her dad gave her restaurant gift cards and some cash which I made perfectly clear the funds were from her Dad...and I disagreed. I asked her what she’s been doing, ( did lose her job), and asked if she talked to her Uncle. She said to me that she doesn’t need to answer my questions. She did however, tell me that she went “off the grid” so we wouldn’t know if she was alive or ok. I looked right at her and asked her why she dislikes us so much that she would want us to be sick with worry? No answer. I finally looked at her and said, “ why are you still here?” She looked at me. I repeated it. She got up, took her gifts and left. No goodbyes, nothing. I did break down today and wish her a Merry Christmas. I did receive a “ u too” response. I guess it’s time to tow in the line and stick to our guns. The irony, our son calls from prison and he’s doing pretty good. He’s reached out to her and she’s not picking up. That speaks volumes. I guess it’s time to give her what she wants .. time, space and no contact. This is certainly a Christmas with few memories to want to remember. We are absolutely blessed beyond measure so I guess we will run with that and try not to look back... blessings to you all... [/QUOTE]
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