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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 335818" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Little Dude's Mom, That is why I started with "No more after school anything." It was a lesson of when and where. We haven't been doing hardly any after school anythings this year. His 5:30 bowling league has been a wonderful switch from the last few years of after school bowling and I have seen the benefits of it.</p><p></p><p>The bowling alley was very quiet - only two other lanes being used. It was all about him not being able to handle a poor score. I understood once that first game started that it was a poor idea and I knew it would be a struggle to get through the make up games. </p><p></p><p>The ONLY reason I asked that he did it then was because we have bad weather coming in making it impossible to do the make up this weekend. Even Monday will be questionable as to if we can get that game in or not. Wednesday and Thursday were not possible this week either.</p><p> </p><p>The one time incident may not be a major issue in the large picture but it was a major pain in the butt to get through. It is so seldom these days that I reach my anger point. I had been very calm the entire time and that last "I am going to bowl even though I know the lane is not working" pushed my button. That was disrespectful to the bowling alley and he KNOWS better. That was when I had to say, "STOP - this is not going any further - we are out of here NOW!"</p><p> </p><p>I try my best to look at situations as learning experiences. I look for ways of doing things differently next time. </p><p> </p><p>I just have to learn how to get him to stop bowling when he starts getting upset. He is so determined to keep bowling until he does well which will not happen when he is frustrated. I can't get him to understand that when he has a bad attitude about bowling, he will bowl badly and there is nothing wrong with walking away and coming back when you are in a more positive place. Last night the only way was to have staff turn off his lane.</p><p> </p><p>Next time he goes for open bowling, we will have a discussion about what he needs to do when he starts to get frustrated. </p><p> </p><p>Little Dude's Mom, You are right that this was a reminder to ME of no after school anything. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 335818, member: 5096"] Little Dude's Mom, That is why I started with "No more after school anything." It was a lesson of when and where. We haven't been doing hardly any after school anythings this year. His 5:30 bowling league has been a wonderful switch from the last few years of after school bowling and I have seen the benefits of it. The bowling alley was very quiet - only two other lanes being used. It was all about him not being able to handle a poor score. I understood once that first game started that it was a poor idea and I knew it would be a struggle to get through the make up games. The ONLY reason I asked that he did it then was because we have bad weather coming in making it impossible to do the make up this weekend. Even Monday will be questionable as to if we can get that game in or not. Wednesday and Thursday were not possible this week either. The one time incident may not be a major issue in the large picture but it was a major pain in the butt to get through. It is so seldom these days that I reach my anger point. I had been very calm the entire time and that last "I am going to bowl even though I know the lane is not working" pushed my button. That was disrespectful to the bowling alley and he KNOWS better. That was when I had to say, "STOP - this is not going any further - we are out of here NOW!" I try my best to look at situations as learning experiences. I look for ways of doing things differently next time. I just have to learn how to get him to stop bowling when he starts getting upset. He is so determined to keep bowling until he does well which will not happen when he is frustrated. I can't get him to understand that when he has a bad attitude about bowling, he will bowl badly and there is nothing wrong with walking away and coming back when you are in a more positive place. Last night the only way was to have staff turn off his lane. Next time he goes for open bowling, we will have a discussion about what he needs to do when he starts to get frustrated. Little Dude's Mom, You are right that this was a reminder to ME of no after school anything. :) [/QUOTE]
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