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Normal 4-YO or is something wrong??? PLS HELP!
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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 433783" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Sounds a bit more intense than the "F-ing Fours". Also sounds very much like mine was. Have you researched ADHD and or ODD? At that age, I did, and while I kinda saw DD1 in the symptoms list and anecdotes, she didn't quite fit the profiles. Start researching, and see if he fits, kinda fits, or not at all. At least it will be a starting point for Dr discussions. My family, friends and I started joking that even from birth DD1 knew she'd end up being the middle child so her 'middle child' behavior began before she was indeed a middle child.</p><p></p><p>Changing up your parenting never hurts (Insanity - doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result) You aren't "yellers", but you said when your husband finally yelled, your son calmed down. Sad to say, you might have to repeat that more often, and sooner. The good news is that it doesn't have to be real yelling - just loud firm parental bellowing. (to me yelling is indicative of you loosing control, so stay in control but DO raise your voice) if it works, great, at least temporarily, right? If it doesn't then you haven't lost that much ground.</p><p></p><p>At the Dr, I'd certainly ask for referrals for psychological/psychiatric evaluation - this can cover everything from "normal" bad behavior to ADHD, to Autism, to ODD, to mood disorders. If the Dr tries to dismiss your concerns, then throw up your hands and ask for a referral for yourself because if it's "normal" then you need help learning to be a parent. Yes, I'm being 'tongue and cheek', sarcastic -whatever you want to call it. No, I don't think your parenting is at issue at all, BUT doctors don't always see it that way. I find that if I offer my flaws as a possibility and they see that I'm wiling to do ANYTHING, they start to take me more seriously.</p><p></p><p>DD1's therapist was shocked when I agreed that some family sessions might be required. She's encountered too many parents that don't want to "work" with their kids, they just want her to 'fix' them. in my opinion no one lives in a vacuum, and within a family one person's problem becomes every family member's problem. It's obvious to me, but apparently not to everyone.</p><p></p><p>Welcome, and stick around. This is a great forum for support, information and guidance.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 433783, member: 11965"] Sounds a bit more intense than the "F-ing Fours". Also sounds very much like mine was. Have you researched ADHD and or ODD? At that age, I did, and while I kinda saw DD1 in the symptoms list and anecdotes, she didn't quite fit the profiles. Start researching, and see if he fits, kinda fits, or not at all. At least it will be a starting point for Dr discussions. My family, friends and I started joking that even from birth DD1 knew she'd end up being the middle child so her 'middle child' behavior began before she was indeed a middle child. Changing up your parenting never hurts (Insanity - doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result) You aren't "yellers", but you said when your husband finally yelled, your son calmed down. Sad to say, you might have to repeat that more often, and sooner. The good news is that it doesn't have to be real yelling - just loud firm parental bellowing. (to me yelling is indicative of you loosing control, so stay in control but DO raise your voice) if it works, great, at least temporarily, right? If it doesn't then you haven't lost that much ground. At the Dr, I'd certainly ask for referrals for psychological/psychiatric evaluation - this can cover everything from "normal" bad behavior to ADHD, to Autism, to ODD, to mood disorders. If the Dr tries to dismiss your concerns, then throw up your hands and ask for a referral for yourself because if it's "normal" then you need help learning to be a parent. Yes, I'm being 'tongue and cheek', sarcastic -whatever you want to call it. No, I don't think your parenting is at issue at all, BUT doctors don't always see it that way. I find that if I offer my flaws as a possibility and they see that I'm wiling to do ANYTHING, they start to take me more seriously. DD1's therapist was shocked when I agreed that some family sessions might be required. She's encountered too many parents that don't want to "work" with their kids, they just want her to 'fix' them. in my opinion no one lives in a vacuum, and within a family one person's problem becomes every family member's problem. It's obvious to me, but apparently not to everyone. Welcome, and stick around. This is a great forum for support, information and guidance. [/QUOTE]
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