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Not Comfortable with Family Therapist given my instincts about my son...
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 670872" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi Sam, I just saw this post. I don't know what the right thing is. Have you spoken with her privately about her approach?</p><p></p><p>It sounds like your son is doing better. I would hesitate to change what is going on if that is the case.</p><p></p><p>Letting go of control is always a good thing, and it isn't the opposite of "trying to get to a better place". </p><p></p><p>Have you tried Al-Anon? </p><p></p><p>If your son is truly working a program and is on a path to change his life, I don't think a misstep or two or three will be the undoing of it all. Often, recovery comes in fits and starts, with relapses and with a path we can't imagine or understand. It's not a pretty picture. It's not a "switch is flipped and then everything is great". It is messy and chaotic and not what we would have thought. </p><p></p><p>Again, that is about letting go of the need to control, which most of us have and struggle with.</p><p></p><p>It is a blessed relief to let go, once you finally do. I'm a Type A personality and one of the most persistent people you can meet...so don't think we are that different.</p><p></p><p>Letting go was the best thing I have ever done in my life---for my son and for myself.</p><p></p><p>How are things?</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. This is hard stuff and I am so glad your son is doing better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 670872, member: 17542"] Hi Sam, I just saw this post. I don't know what the right thing is. Have you spoken with her privately about her approach? It sounds like your son is doing better. I would hesitate to change what is going on if that is the case. Letting go of control is always a good thing, and it isn't the opposite of "trying to get to a better place". Have you tried Al-Anon? If your son is truly working a program and is on a path to change his life, I don't think a misstep or two or three will be the undoing of it all. Often, recovery comes in fits and starts, with relapses and with a path we can't imagine or understand. It's not a pretty picture. It's not a "switch is flipped and then everything is great". It is messy and chaotic and not what we would have thought. Again, that is about letting go of the need to control, which most of us have and struggle with. It is a blessed relief to let go, once you finally do. I'm a Type A personality and one of the most persistent people you can meet...so don't think we are that different. Letting go was the best thing I have ever done in my life---for my son and for myself. How are things? Hang in there. This is hard stuff and I am so glad your son is doing better. [/QUOTE]
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