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Not feeling clear on detachment for adult child
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<blockquote data-quote="Siobhan Harper" data-source="post: 577913" data-attributes="member: 15902"><p>Payla, I'm new here and just want to say that I totally empathize and am so sorry you're dealing with the hardest issues imaginable. Needing to detach (and actually doing it) from your difficult child or any child, no matter the age, wrenches the soul. My husband and I were discussing this not long ago, and we specifically talked about how NOBODY really understands what raising difficult child was like or what parenting him as an adult is like; you just can't adequately explain it. Every single day of every single year is a challenge. It's so awfully easy to feel guilty, like you've not done enough, that you've failed because you couldn't "fix" your difficult child's life. My husband and I have lived like that, so we know, so I can imagine what you must be feeling as you try so hard to do the right thing. When detaching is the right thing, it's hard to shake the feeling that you're somehow giving up on your difficult child. You're really not; you're doing what is most helpful for him/her in the long run, and you're giving yourself permission to find a state of "normal" that doesn't include waiting for the other shoe to drop every minute of every day.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, the very best of luck to you. You deserve some peace; I really hope you find it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Siobhan Harper, post: 577913, member: 15902"] Payla, I'm new here and just want to say that I totally empathize and am so sorry you're dealing with the hardest issues imaginable. Needing to detach (and actually doing it) from your difficult child or any child, no matter the age, wrenches the soul. My husband and I were discussing this not long ago, and we specifically talked about how NOBODY really understands what raising difficult child was like or what parenting him as an adult is like; you just can't adequately explain it. Every single day of every single year is a challenge. It's so awfully easy to feel guilty, like you've not done enough, that you've failed because you couldn't "fix" your difficult child's life. My husband and I have lived like that, so we know, so I can imagine what you must be feeling as you try so hard to do the right thing. When detaching is the right thing, it's hard to shake the feeling that you're somehow giving up on your difficult child. You're really not; you're doing what is most helpful for him/her in the long run, and you're giving yourself permission to find a state of "normal" that doesn't include waiting for the other shoe to drop every minute of every day. Anyway, the very best of luck to you. You deserve some peace; I really hope you find it. [/QUOTE]
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