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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 175495" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I've learned that, for my own sake, I just stop posting to certain people...or reading their posts. Some folks think that it's a parent's duty to not only be there no matter what the kid does, but to support the grown adult in high style. Since that goes against everything I believe in (and have seen in real life), I refrain from trying to help people who have this mindset imbedded in them. To me, you do NO grown child any good by not letting him become self-sufficient. It is worse if the child doesn't want to take responsibility and takes, takes, takes. What happens when we're gone? We have a forty year old adult, no longer cute to anybody, who is completely selfish and unlovable and likely very unsuccessful in his life...just thinking about it saddens me.</p><p>I've learned my limitations of giving advice...good thread.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 175495, member: 1550"] I've learned that, for my own sake, I just stop posting to certain people...or reading their posts. Some folks think that it's a parent's duty to not only be there no matter what the kid does, but to support the grown adult in high style. Since that goes against everything I believe in (and have seen in real life), I refrain from trying to help people who have this mindset imbedded in them. To me, you do NO grown child any good by not letting him become self-sufficient. It is worse if the child doesn't want to take responsibility and takes, takes, takes. What happens when we're gone? We have a forty year old adult, no longer cute to anybody, who is completely selfish and unlovable and likely very unsuccessful in his life...just thinking about it saddens me. I've learned my limitations of giving advice...good thread. [/QUOTE]
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