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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 117201" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Honestly, BACK OFF!!! That's what I had to learn. No advice unless asked. If the letter is folded wrong, he'll either ask for you to print out another copy or stuff it in. His problem, not yours. Unless cost is an issue, let him order the big meal -- you can always get a doggy bag. </p><p></p><p>He is almost 18, now is not the time to micro-manage. Imagine if you thought you were almost an adult and your mother was telling you how to do stuff. I know I'd be irritated to no end.</p><p></p><p>At 18, the rules really do change. You can and should be giving him curfews if he's still living at home and going to school. If he's not in school but working, then it is time for him to be paying some nominal rent (enough to make him budget, not enough that there is nothing left for his own spending). He should be keeping his room clean and helping around the house as a contributing member of the family. Basically, the rules should be ones that would apply if he were sharing an apartment -- courtesy, consideration but the ability to make his own choices where possible. </p><p></p><p>It's hard on us parents. They're still kids in our eyes and their behavior/attitude does nothing to change that viewpoint. However, now is the time we have to start teaching them the realities of adulthood, of living on their own or with friends, what an employer will expect. It is not the time to worry about the small stuff -- they've either learned it or will learn it on their own. Sometimes, if we're lucky, they'll even ask for help on how to do something.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 117201, member: 3626"] Honestly, BACK OFF!!! That's what I had to learn. No advice unless asked. If the letter is folded wrong, he'll either ask for you to print out another copy or stuff it in. His problem, not yours. Unless cost is an issue, let him order the big meal -- you can always get a doggy bag. He is almost 18, now is not the time to micro-manage. Imagine if you thought you were almost an adult and your mother was telling you how to do stuff. I know I'd be irritated to no end. At 18, the rules really do change. You can and should be giving him curfews if he's still living at home and going to school. If he's not in school but working, then it is time for him to be paying some nominal rent (enough to make him budget, not enough that there is nothing left for his own spending). He should be keeping his room clean and helping around the house as a contributing member of the family. Basically, the rules should be ones that would apply if he were sharing an apartment -- courtesy, consideration but the ability to make his own choices where possible. It's hard on us parents. They're still kids in our eyes and their behavior/attitude does nothing to change that viewpoint. However, now is the time we have to start teaching them the realities of adulthood, of living on their own or with friends, what an employer will expect. It is not the time to worry about the small stuff -- they've either learned it or will learn it on their own. Sometimes, if we're lucky, they'll even ask for help on how to do something. [/QUOTE]
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