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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 295695" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>WOW! You sure have your hands full. So many people have given you such excellent advice. When I first started coming here the power struggle with Wiz (my difficult child) was so intense that nothing I did worked. Very little of what my parents did worked (and they were his favorite people and had the most influence over him) and nothing of what the teachers at his school did worked. </p><p></p><p>After I was able to put down the reins of the power struggle and let him steer the course we learned a lot about him. He needed different things than the traditional parenting could provide. We even homeschooled him with very few conflicts after I learned that following his lead was not giving in or giving up. It was just a different path - and a really cool path much of the time.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, you have gotten some awesome advice here. I know some of us are long-winded seeming, but the posts have had great suggestions and maybe have ways to help you figure out what is going on. Marg is brilliant at helping to figure out the why behind the problem and also figuring out ways to let the child have whatever they so desperately want or need in ways that are at least tolerable for the rest of the family. </p><p></p><p>I do suggest locks on cabinets and cupboard doors if needed. I found that they minimized conflict because the item is simply beyond reach. Some of us put locks on our bedroom doors and keep items that are problems behind a locked door. I still keep unopened bags of cookies and chips in my bedroom. It keeps the kids from opening 3 kinds of snacks and dumping them or letting the bag sit opened and going stale. </p><p></p><p>You already have tons and tons of reports from docs, tests, etc... Some years back a few of the moms here devised a way to present all the info on our kids in one report. The report is kept in a 3 ring binder and copies of some or all the info can be easily given to docs, school, etc... Not all of the people you work with for difficult child need all the info. This lets you have all the answers for those long detailed questionaires at your fingertips. We called the binder of info a Parent Report. You will likely need to work on it in sections to avoid brain overload. Here is a link to the Parent Report outline that the moms figured out: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10</a></p><p></p><p>If you need to search for this thread it can be found in the FAQ/ Board Help section under the title "Parent Input/Multidisciplinary Evaluation".</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the Board!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 295695, member: 1233"] WOW! You sure have your hands full. So many people have given you such excellent advice. When I first started coming here the power struggle with Wiz (my difficult child) was so intense that nothing I did worked. Very little of what my parents did worked (and they were his favorite people and had the most influence over him) and nothing of what the teachers at his school did worked. After I was able to put down the reins of the power struggle and let him steer the course we learned a lot about him. He needed different things than the traditional parenting could provide. We even homeschooled him with very few conflicts after I learned that following his lead was not giving in or giving up. It was just a different path - and a really cool path much of the time. Anyway, you have gotten some awesome advice here. I know some of us are long-winded seeming, but the posts have had great suggestions and maybe have ways to help you figure out what is going on. Marg is brilliant at helping to figure out the why behind the problem and also figuring out ways to let the child have whatever they so desperately want or need in ways that are at least tolerable for the rest of the family. I do suggest locks on cabinets and cupboard doors if needed. I found that they minimized conflict because the item is simply beyond reach. Some of us put locks on our bedroom doors and keep items that are problems behind a locked door. I still keep unopened bags of cookies and chips in my bedroom. It keeps the kids from opening 3 kinds of snacks and dumping them or letting the bag sit opened and going stale. You already have tons and tons of reports from docs, tests, etc... Some years back a few of the moms here devised a way to present all the info on our kids in one report. The report is kept in a 3 ring binder and copies of some or all the info can be easily given to docs, school, etc... Not all of the people you work with for difficult child need all the info. This lets you have all the answers for those long detailed questionaires at your fingertips. We called the binder of info a Parent Report. You will likely need to work on it in sections to avoid brain overload. Here is a link to the Parent Report outline that the moms figured out: [url]http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10[/url] If you need to search for this thread it can be found in the FAQ/ Board Help section under the title "Parent Input/Multidisciplinary Evaluation". Welcome to the Board! [/QUOTE]
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