Hearthope, your son is manipulating the situation again.
Good.
That means he is listening, whatever it looks like to you.
He won't listen?
Stop talking.
Post your expectations on the fridge. If you feel like it, request that he sign it so you know he has read it.
Otherwise, presume he has read it.
Keep everything really simple and clear. Ask him to add any comments or changes he would like to see.
Add something about how if you both bend just a little, you will all make it through this.
Begin preparing yourself for how you will tell this child to leave, and how you will cope with the pain and confusion that brings.
Will he go quietly or will you need to call in the police.
It may never come to that?
But you need to know that is an option.
Is drug use playing any part in what is happening to your son?
Even just marijuana?
Barbara
