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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 398728" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Beth--</p><p> </p><p>You've said a couple of things in your posts that sound a lot like my own difficult child...</p><p> </p><p>You said that <span style="color: royalblue"><em>"Our son LOVES her so much but cannot keep his hands off of her. Even if it's hugging, it's just too much and unwanted by her. He has nudged her down the stairs more than once "....</em></span>this is a BIG Uh-oh for me! My difficult child, too, used to make a big show of "loving" her little brother and other smaller children. It took me a while to catch on, but it turned out that when she was doing something that looked caring (like a hug) - she was actually deliverately hurting the other child. For example, she might give a hug - with a nice hard pinch added. If your child is nudging his sister down the stairs....that does not sound loving to me. Take a closer look at those hugs and see whether they really are "hugs" or not.</p><p> </p><p>Second, it's been recommended to you to enroll your child in martial arts - the theory is that aggressive children will find this a more appropriate outlet for their aggressive behaviors. We tried this route. We soon discovered that difficult child was completely un-motivated in class...but took every opportunity to practice her new found skills on kids at school. </p><p> </p><p>in my humble opinion - I do not think you should be giving your child any more "tools" to hurt other kids.</p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry you are dealing with this - it's so hard to see our children being mean and aggressive toward others...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 398728, member: 6546"] Beth-- You've said a couple of things in your posts that sound a lot like my own difficult child... You said that [COLOR=royalblue][I]"Our son LOVES her so much but cannot keep his hands off of her. Even if it's hugging, it's just too much and unwanted by her. He has nudged her down the stairs more than once "....[/I][/COLOR]this is a BIG Uh-oh for me! My difficult child, too, used to make a big show of "loving" her little brother and other smaller children. It took me a while to catch on, but it turned out that when she was doing something that looked caring (like a hug) - she was actually deliverately hurting the other child. For example, she might give a hug - with a nice hard pinch added. If your child is nudging his sister down the stairs....that does not sound loving to me. Take a closer look at those hugs and see whether they really are "hugs" or not. Second, it's been recommended to you to enroll your child in martial arts - the theory is that aggressive children will find this a more appropriate outlet for their aggressive behaviors. We tried this route. We soon discovered that difficult child was completely un-motivated in class...but took every opportunity to practice her new found skills on kids at school. in my humble opinion - I do not think you should be giving your child any more "tools" to hurt other kids. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this - it's so hard to see our children being mean and aggressive toward others... [/QUOTE]
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