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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 595718" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>In response to how do you handle a friend sleeping over if it's more than a friend ... my easy child is about to turn 14 and came out last year. We talk very openly, which I'd have been doing no matter what her sexuality because at this age I'd rather have her comfortable talking to me than confused or learning through risky experimentation. I know not all kids are going to go with that, talking with a parent about sex and sexuality. Especially difficult child's. So that might not be possible, only you know. </p><p></p><p>We obviously had to discuss the sleep over thing. Well frankly, teen girls having their female friends for sleep overs is sort of a right of passage for teenagers and my easy child deserves that normal activity regardless of her sexuality. So we have had to have frank and honest talks, which I do recommend you do with your difficult child. </p><p></p><p>I explained to my easy child that she has a right to have her friends stay over just as all teen girls love to do. Regardless of the friends sexuality, she is allowed to do normal activities with her friends. She however knows that because there is always now the chance that something sexual could arise, that any friends sleeping over will be sleeping in the spare room and both that room and her bedroom door will be closed and they will be in their own rooms when I go to bed for the night. And if I ever catch sneaking around, sleep overs are simply out for her own well being. She completely understands. </p><p></p><p>We really don't make a big deal out if it, I don't see her sexuality being lesbian as any bigger deal than a hetero teen girl hitting puberty, liking boys and having crushes etc. She knows I am not okay with risky behaviors or premature experimentation etc. Perhaps I'm just lucky because she is not eager to jump on the sex band wagon and is quite content to have crushes and swoon over that person and talk to me about it, but is in no rush to be heavily involved. She does have a crush thing with a cute as a button teen who I think is a great kid. She is much like my easy child even though she is older than easy child. Just focused on school and crushes on my easy child but isn't in a hurry to rush more mature sexual stuff. </p><p></p><p>I think a frank talk about those photos is for sure in order. It is super risky and frankly, dangerous and risky and stupid for teens to take photos like that. We all know it's the new "thing" with teen girls. So i wouldn't come at her with a rant or anything. But I think there needs to be open dialogue about the dangers of taking those photos. We hear enough about the effects of those photos getting out, it's for life, the internet forgets nothing.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smile.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smile:" title="smile :smile:" data-shortname=":smile:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 595718, member: 4264"] In response to how do you handle a friend sleeping over if it's more than a friend ... my easy child is about to turn 14 and came out last year. We talk very openly, which I'd have been doing no matter what her sexuality because at this age I'd rather have her comfortable talking to me than confused or learning through risky experimentation. I know not all kids are going to go with that, talking with a parent about sex and sexuality. Especially difficult child's. So that might not be possible, only you know. We obviously had to discuss the sleep over thing. Well frankly, teen girls having their female friends for sleep overs is sort of a right of passage for teenagers and my easy child deserves that normal activity regardless of her sexuality. So we have had to have frank and honest talks, which I do recommend you do with your difficult child. I explained to my easy child that she has a right to have her friends stay over just as all teen girls love to do. Regardless of the friends sexuality, she is allowed to do normal activities with her friends. She however knows that because there is always now the chance that something sexual could arise, that any friends sleeping over will be sleeping in the spare room and both that room and her bedroom door will be closed and they will be in their own rooms when I go to bed for the night. And if I ever catch sneaking around, sleep overs are simply out for her own well being. She completely understands. We really don't make a big deal out if it, I don't see her sexuality being lesbian as any bigger deal than a hetero teen girl hitting puberty, liking boys and having crushes etc. She knows I am not okay with risky behaviors or premature experimentation etc. Perhaps I'm just lucky because she is not eager to jump on the sex band wagon and is quite content to have crushes and swoon over that person and talk to me about it, but is in no rush to be heavily involved. She does have a crush thing with a cute as a button teen who I think is a great kid. She is much like my easy child even though she is older than easy child. Just focused on school and crushes on my easy child but isn't in a hurry to rush more mature sexual stuff. I think a frank talk about those photos is for sure in order. It is super risky and frankly, dangerous and risky and stupid for teens to take photos like that. We all know it's the new "thing" with teen girls. So i wouldn't come at her with a rant or anything. But I think there needs to be open dialogue about the dangers of taking those photos. We hear enough about the effects of those photos getting out, it's for life, the internet forgets nothing. :smile: [/QUOTE]
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