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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 596077" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>Well, we finally had time to discuss the photos I found... and I guess it went better than I expected... but I still don't believe half of what she is telling me. When I first mentioned why the tripod and camera was in her bedroom she was just vague... "oh, I just moved it from over there to here" and then it was "the camera's batteries are dead anyway, so I couldn't have taken any photos". So today I told her that I had the memory card and there were photos that were questionable and that if she had forwarded them to any one it could really cause problems. She kept saying she didn't remember taking any photos in her bed. Then it was well... maybe a long time ago... but I told her the sheets and bedspread were new in these photos and she had those items for less than two weeks. </p><p></p><p>I finally showed her the photos she had posed for in bed.... and possibly they were taken with the camera on her bookcase headboard and not the tripod, but still, they were not appropriate photos to take. But she still insists she doesn't remember doing that. Right. Then the same excuses with the photos of the friend cuddling with her and kissing her on the cheek and the top of the head. She remembered the photos... "kind of" but didn't think anything about it at the time... that they might even look like a different type of relationship. I don't really know what to believe. I tried to tell her that some teens experiment with people of the same sex, but she assured me she was only attracted to boys. I asked her if she thought this girl might have been wanting a different type of relationship... but of course, this girl is in to boys too. Then why take photos of kissing and cuddling. The last time this girl was at the house, I noticed that difficult child was sitting on her lap while they looked up something on the computer. I even motioned for difficult child to get up but the other girl was like "oh, it's fine. she sits on my lap all the time." </p><p></p><p>So, we had the talk, we talked about birth control, pregnancy, boys, girls, and I still don't know if she is telling me the truth. I explained to her that at 15 I felt she was too young for sexual experiences and that I, in no way, would raise a great grand child. Well, she was adamant that she would never give a child up for adoption and she wanted to be a good parent. I tried to explain that teens were not equipped to be a good parent, that they would need a lot of help, financially, emotionally, physically and that I was not prepared to raise a third generation. </p><p></p><p>I also tried to explain that she is very impulsive about just about everything... cutting her hair, buying a certain dress, eating certain food, having to have a pop. That if a person can't wait for some things now, it will make waiting for sex very difficult. She still maintains that she isn't ready for sex... but I still know that the right boy (the wrong one!) could sweet talk her out of her undies in no time at all. It is like she doesn't have a willpower for anything that she wants. I am hoping we can hold off for about 6 weeks... and it will take that long or more to get an appointment with the OB/GYN. Our family doctor could px the bc pills, but we (the doctor and I) both thought it would not be a good form for her as she is very forgetful about everything. So the implant or injections will have to be from the OB/GYN. Less than 2 weeks til testing - and about 6 weeks til the results. I sure don't want her to have any type of medication that might make her more hormonal than she already is. </p><p></p><p>Anyway... that is what we are up to now. And I have her memory card and when I have time to put it in my camera and delete the offending photos I'll do it before I give it back to her. Like I said, I still don't believe her, but at least she knows that I know what she is up to - even if she denies it. KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 596077, member: 12511"] Well, we finally had time to discuss the photos I found... and I guess it went better than I expected... but I still don't believe half of what she is telling me. When I first mentioned why the tripod and camera was in her bedroom she was just vague... "oh, I just moved it from over there to here" and then it was "the camera's batteries are dead anyway, so I couldn't have taken any photos". So today I told her that I had the memory card and there were photos that were questionable and that if she had forwarded them to any one it could really cause problems. She kept saying she didn't remember taking any photos in her bed. Then it was well... maybe a long time ago... but I told her the sheets and bedspread were new in these photos and she had those items for less than two weeks. I finally showed her the photos she had posed for in bed.... and possibly they were taken with the camera on her bookcase headboard and not the tripod, but still, they were not appropriate photos to take. But she still insists she doesn't remember doing that. Right. Then the same excuses with the photos of the friend cuddling with her and kissing her on the cheek and the top of the head. She remembered the photos... "kind of" but didn't think anything about it at the time... that they might even look like a different type of relationship. I don't really know what to believe. I tried to tell her that some teens experiment with people of the same sex, but she assured me she was only attracted to boys. I asked her if she thought this girl might have been wanting a different type of relationship... but of course, this girl is in to boys too. Then why take photos of kissing and cuddling. The last time this girl was at the house, I noticed that difficult child was sitting on her lap while they looked up something on the computer. I even motioned for difficult child to get up but the other girl was like "oh, it's fine. she sits on my lap all the time." So, we had the talk, we talked about birth control, pregnancy, boys, girls, and I still don't know if she is telling me the truth. I explained to her that at 15 I felt she was too young for sexual experiences and that I, in no way, would raise a great grand child. Well, she was adamant that she would never give a child up for adoption and she wanted to be a good parent. I tried to explain that teens were not equipped to be a good parent, that they would need a lot of help, financially, emotionally, physically and that I was not prepared to raise a third generation. I also tried to explain that she is very impulsive about just about everything... cutting her hair, buying a certain dress, eating certain food, having to have a pop. That if a person can't wait for some things now, it will make waiting for sex very difficult. She still maintains that she isn't ready for sex... but I still know that the right boy (the wrong one!) could sweet talk her out of her undies in no time at all. It is like she doesn't have a willpower for anything that she wants. I am hoping we can hold off for about 6 weeks... and it will take that long or more to get an appointment with the OB/GYN. Our family doctor could px the bc pills, but we (the doctor and I) both thought it would not be a good form for her as she is very forgetful about everything. So the implant or injections will have to be from the OB/GYN. Less than 2 weeks til testing - and about 6 weeks til the results. I sure don't want her to have any type of medication that might make her more hormonal than she already is. Anyway... that is what we are up to now. And I have her memory card and when I have time to put it in my camera and delete the offending photos I'll do it before I give it back to her. Like I said, I still don't believe her, but at least she knows that I know what she is up to - even if she denies it. KSM [/QUOTE]
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