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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 596132" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>The thing I did regarding compromising pictures and social media outputs, and which to my knowledge has worked with my kids, was to dig good, bad examples of the topic and bring those up as neutral discussion topics with my kids. I still do that to keep those matters in their mind. Anyone tends to get defensive if they feel they are accused oreven warned about something. When it is not personal, it's much easier to talk and take info in.</p><p></p><p>Let's face, there is no shortage of public social media and compromising picture gaffes among celebrities and other public figures or just other media. I especially picked blunders made by athletes, because that is something my boys are interested and relate. When having a conversation what a pity it is how much jeering one poor pro athlete around here has had to deal with for years because he took a very personal video with his phone (and it's not that he was doing anything wrong), phone was stolen and video made its way to public or how some minor league never heard American hockey player made it to even our news because he made possibly homophobic comment in Twitter, it is not personal and my kids don't get defensive. They don't think I'm suspecting they have done something wrong or that I would think they are stupid and don't know how to behave. And because of that, they don't concentrate trying to defend themselves and it is more likely that they actually hear what I'm talking about. </p><p></p><p>Whatever type of celebrities etc. your kid is interested in, are perfect for these lessons. And of course also real life 'social porn' stories about ordinary people. Keep your eyes open and when you notice something that could be a teaching moment, just bring it up for example during dinner. Don't even talk about it to difficult child but with your husband or younger daughter and let her chime in. No straightforward teaching like "don't you do this or that" but just 'gossiping' and wondering what an earth was that person thinking etc. about the matter.</p><p></p><p>That has worked rather well with my boys. And even easy child would roll his eyes or get defensive for trying to teach those things more straightforward manner.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 596132, member: 14557"] The thing I did regarding compromising pictures and social media outputs, and which to my knowledge has worked with my kids, was to dig good, bad examples of the topic and bring those up as neutral discussion topics with my kids. I still do that to keep those matters in their mind. Anyone tends to get defensive if they feel they are accused oreven warned about something. When it is not personal, it's much easier to talk and take info in. Let's face, there is no shortage of public social media and compromising picture gaffes among celebrities and other public figures or just other media. I especially picked blunders made by athletes, because that is something my boys are interested and relate. When having a conversation what a pity it is how much jeering one poor pro athlete around here has had to deal with for years because he took a very personal video with his phone (and it's not that he was doing anything wrong), phone was stolen and video made its way to public or how some minor league never heard American hockey player made it to even our news because he made possibly homophobic comment in Twitter, it is not personal and my kids don't get defensive. They don't think I'm suspecting they have done something wrong or that I would think they are stupid and don't know how to behave. And because of that, they don't concentrate trying to defend themselves and it is more likely that they actually hear what I'm talking about. Whatever type of celebrities etc. your kid is interested in, are perfect for these lessons. And of course also real life 'social porn' stories about ordinary people. Keep your eyes open and when you notice something that could be a teaching moment, just bring it up for example during dinner. Don't even talk about it to difficult child but with your husband or younger daughter and let her chime in. No straightforward teaching like "don't you do this or that" but just 'gossiping' and wondering what an earth was that person thinking etc. about the matter. That has worked rather well with my boys. And even easy child would roll his eyes or get defensive for trying to teach those things more straightforward manner. [/QUOTE]
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