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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 746017" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">Drug addiction is not primarily about frequency of use or continuous use. It is about the relationship of the drug to your life, and how your functioning is affected. You don't need to consume drugs every single day or even most days to be drug dependent or to abuse drugs. In the same way, recovery is not just stopping drugs for a day or two or even a week. Even people who go to prison or jail where there are few if any drugs, are not considered to be non-addicts because there was no choice, intention or responsibility taken to stop drugs. It is only their involuntary incarceration that has rendered unavailable the drugs. If you don't have money for drugs, so don't use for 3 days, it does not mean you've stopped. Stopping is another thing entirely. Your son has not stopped. </span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">A relapse can only happen if there has been recovery. And recovery happens when somebody has been involved in treatment over a period of time, and participated in treatment and sought to recover. Recovery is not just not using drugs for a day or two. There has to have been intent to stop the substance, a commitment to stop, and a follow through on that over a continuous period.</span></p> <p style="text-align: left"></p> <p style="text-align: left">A relapse happens only within the context of recovery. It is to resume drugs after or within an active recovery process. <span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">Your son seems to be not using for a day or so, and then when he uses drugs again, calling that a relapse. That is not a relapse. It is a continuous and ongoing pattern of drug use. </span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">In the same way it is not correct to call the days you don't use drugs, as detox. A detox is the medical treatment of an addicted person which involves abstention, until the blood is free of toxins. Unless your son is going to a medical facility or physician who specializes in addiction, he is not detoxing. He is resting. </span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">Abstention is to abstain. Abstaining involves the voluntary and deliberate non-use of a substance over a period of time. It is about intention.</span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">From what I have read your son is not participating in treatment of any sort at this time. </span>So by definition he cannot be relapsing and cannot be detoxing, at least as I understand it. <span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">While we can't know what is in his heart, he seems to not have the intention of abstaining from drugs. He is snowing you. He is using drugs when he wants. Period. </span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 746017, member: 18958"] [LEFT][COLOR=rgb(20, 20, 20)]Drug addiction is not primarily about frequency of use or continuous use. It is about the relationship of the drug to your life, and how your functioning is affected. You don't need to consume drugs every single day or even most days to be drug dependent or to abuse drugs. In the same way, recovery is not just stopping drugs for a day or two or even a week. Even people who go to prison or jail where there are few if any drugs, are not considered to be non-addicts because there was no choice, intention or responsibility taken to stop drugs. It is only their involuntary incarceration that has rendered unavailable the drugs. If you don't have money for drugs, so don't use for 3 days, it does not mean you've stopped. Stopping is another thing entirely. Your son has not stopped. A relapse can only happen if there has been recovery. And recovery happens when somebody has been involved in treatment over a period of time, and participated in treatment and sought to recover. Recovery is not just not using drugs for a day or two. There has to have been intent to stop the substance, a commitment to stop, and a follow through on that over a continuous period.[/COLOR] A relapse happens only within the context of recovery. It is to resume drugs after or within an active recovery process. [COLOR=rgb(20, 20, 20)]Your son seems to be not using for a day or so, and then when he uses drugs again, calling that a relapse. That is not a relapse. It is a continuous and ongoing pattern of drug use. In the same way it is not correct to call the days you don't use drugs, as detox. A detox is the medical treatment of an addicted person which involves abstention, until the blood is free of toxins. Unless your son is going to a medical facility or physician who specializes in addiction, he is not detoxing. He is resting. Abstention is to abstain. Abstaining involves the voluntary and deliberate non-use of a substance over a period of time. It is about intention. From what I have read your son is not participating in treatment of any sort at this time. [/COLOR]So by definition he cannot be relapsing and cannot be detoxing, at least as I understand it. [COLOR=rgb(20, 20, 20)]While we can't know what is in his heart, he seems to not have the intention of abstaining from drugs. He is snowing you. He is using drugs when he wants. Period. [/COLOR][/LEFT] [/QUOTE]
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