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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 399679" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>There are no easy answers to the question "what do we do?". Each of us has to follow our heart and the resources available in our communitites. "Should we go so far as to drug test him?" That questions indicates that you are caught in the quandry of what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. You have hard choices to make. Whatever you and your husband decide to do you must make sure that both of you are on the same page. That is probably more important than any other factor. You must both agree that you will do X and be prepared for Y.</p><p> </p><p>Believe me NONE of us wanted to have to deal with drugs and spiraling behavior patterns. Some reach out to treatment centers, some call the police, almost all of us make sure that our difficult children know that there will be no tolerance for alcohol and drug use. But, just because parents won't tolerate it doesn't mean that the difficult child is going to agree to substance free living or counseling or ???</p><p> </p><p>Personally we opted to use outpatient substance abuse treatment combined with highly qualified counseling. Later we had to move on to inpatient substance abuse treatment...and then later due to our child's choices law enforcement became involved. You have to choose your path. I can almost guarantee you that if your teen says "I have tried pot and alcohol"</p><p>that really means he/she is a regular user beyond your imagination. Addicts lie. Really nice teen addicts lie like a rug.</p><p> </p><p>Study the options available with your husband and then set <strong>your </strong>course. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. One thing for sure is that by doing nothing you will have more tragic results. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 399679, member: 35"] There are no easy answers to the question "what do we do?". Each of us has to follow our heart and the resources available in our communitites. "Should we go so far as to drug test him?" That questions indicates that you are caught in the quandry of what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. You have hard choices to make. Whatever you and your husband decide to do you must make sure that both of you are on the same page. That is probably more important than any other factor. You must both agree that you will do X and be prepared for Y. Believe me NONE of us wanted to have to deal with drugs and spiraling behavior patterns. Some reach out to treatment centers, some call the police, almost all of us make sure that our difficult children know that there will be no tolerance for alcohol and drug use. But, just because parents won't tolerate it doesn't mean that the difficult child is going to agree to substance free living or counseling or ??? Personally we opted to use outpatient substance abuse treatment combined with highly qualified counseling. Later we had to move on to inpatient substance abuse treatment...and then later due to our child's choices law enforcement became involved. You have to choose your path. I can almost guarantee you that if your teen says "I have tried pot and alcohol" that really means he/she is a regular user beyond your imagination. Addicts lie. Really nice teen addicts lie like a rug. Study the options available with your husband and then set [B]your [/B]course. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. One thing for sure is that by doing nothing you will have more tragic results. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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