First, don't feel like a bad parent. All kids learn at different rates!
Also, don't be intimidated by the school telling you he has to write his name by K. Most of the kids in my difficult child's class couldn't - that's what K is all about.
Aside from that, I had to use some creative ways to teach difficult child to count and learn his alphabet (although the alphabet was easier). He loved planes so we would drive to our local airport, park the car, then go over to the a big window a count the small private jets. It worked for him!
For the alphabet, it was a matter of a good "abc" wooden puzzle with pictures of animals behind each letter. Before telling him the name of the letter, I starred with the sound. For example, "L for lamb, M for mouse," not with the name of the letter but the phonetic beginning sound. It's the same way easy child learned her alphabet (much earlier of course!).
Perhaps for his name, and I'm not sure what it is, you could use the shorter version if there is one (it's what I did for difficult child). Get some dried beans and some glue and some construction paper. Write his name and have him trace it with glue and then apply the dried beans - repitition, repitition, repitition.
All these suggestions assume there is learning issue present. Good luck!
Sharon
