Just wanted to address your question about what this means. I think it means that Beaner would do better in a sp. ed. class that has a smaller number of students and a higher number of teachers that will focus on his behavior while still teaching him academics. And he needs this because of his behavior problems. You are going to want to post this in the sp. ed. forum and get their help.
"Beaner is at high risk for behavioral problems in the school environment. Officials at his SD will want to consider options as far as more restrictive placements in association with behavioral concerns, possibly including but not limited to placement in a small self contained classroom."
Don't worry about the letters, numbers, and writing his name. Most kids going into Kindergarten don't know this.
I taught difficult child 1 how to read because I'm sure his thinking is so weird that if I didn't he'd have a hard time learning at school. Besides he was pooping his pants so much I didn't think he was ready for kindergarten. It was a nightmare. He learns much better from someone besides me. Somehow he did learn to read and still does read very well compared to his classmates. What I did was going over and over and over it. 'Lets jump on one leg and count 1, 2, 3, 4, 5' 'Count the fence posts 1, 2, 3, 4, 5' 'count somersaults 1, 2, 3, 4, 5'
Again I wouldn't worry about it to much. He isn't going to be the only kid there not able to count or write his name. And if the school is making you feel awful about it then shame on them.