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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 678578" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I too believe it's nature over nurture. Never believed that until I adopted. I'm kinda sorta open to 50/50....but if I was forced to choose one, nature wins.</p><p></p><p>Our adopted daughter is nothing like "us." It is shocking, she even eats diff. foods and I recall reading a study that children often favor foods their bio moms ate while pregnant.</p><p></p><p>A good friend adopted a little girl...a few years old. My friend is very intelligent and spiritual. Husband similar with a ph.D. Both happy (at least they were). OMG. She (the child) suffered from depression and mood swings. Later she was diagnosis'd as having a personality disorder and still later, she became an alcoholic. She never wanted to work and struggled terribly holding down any job. When she was in her teens, a psychologist said to find the birth mother and maybe if adopted daughter met her, it would help in some way.</p><p></p><p>They found her (birth mom) and she was practically an exact copy of their daughter ....depressed, personality disorder, alcoholic and couldn't hold down a job.</p><p></p><p>Being in a loving, spiritual, well educated, kind home...for all those years had basically no influence whatsoever.</p><p></p><p>And in our home...our daughter couldn't be a bigger opposite to myself, husband and bio son.</p><p></p><p>Yes, this sometimes happens with two bio children, but I think moreso with adopted children.</p><p></p><p>Our environment is important, true. And influential.</p><p></p><p>But Nature is extremely powerful.</p><p></p><p>And when mental illness is involved, it's even more complicated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 678578, member: 4152"] I too believe it's nature over nurture. Never believed that until I adopted. I'm kinda sorta open to 50/50....but if I was forced to choose one, nature wins. Our adopted daughter is nothing like "us." It is shocking, she even eats diff. foods and I recall reading a study that children often favor foods their bio moms ate while pregnant. A good friend adopted a little girl...a few years old. My friend is very intelligent and spiritual. Husband similar with a ph.D. Both happy (at least they were). OMG. She (the child) suffered from depression and mood swings. Later she was diagnosis'd as having a personality disorder and still later, she became an alcoholic. She never wanted to work and struggled terribly holding down any job. When she was in her teens, a psychologist said to find the birth mother and maybe if adopted daughter met her, it would help in some way. They found her (birth mom) and she was practically an exact copy of their daughter ....depressed, personality disorder, alcoholic and couldn't hold down a job. Being in a loving, spiritual, well educated, kind home...for all those years had basically no influence whatsoever. And in our home...our daughter couldn't be a bigger opposite to myself, husband and bio son. Yes, this sometimes happens with two bio children, but I think moreso with adopted children. Our environment is important, true. And influential. But Nature is extremely powerful. And when mental illness is involved, it's even more complicated. [/QUOTE]
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