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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 678794" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>He has been connected to adult services and case management in 3 different counties that I know of. He refuses to stay engaged. I brought him to the Department of Rehabilitation. He was indifferent. The very nice worker brought up the possibility that he volunteer at the zoo here. That was almost a year ago. He has never gone back.</p><p></p><p>He did say a couple of weeks ago that that possibility sounded like it could be fun.</p><p>For a while he was in the county next to mine. They were going to give him a subsidized apartment. He was at the top of the list. He trashed the idea because there were meth addicts in the complex.</p><p></p><p>I will sit down with him and talk to him about his options. What he wants to do. I am sure what he wants to do is either live with me, or live under my umbrella.</p><p>He gets just over 900 a month. In my town the rents are very cheap. He could get his own apartment for 375 or 400. That would leave enough for food, and other expenses. The county next to mine is more expensive, but not very expensive.</p><p>He has had help writing a resume, several times. Who knows where it is? He is not motivated to work or to apply for a job. He resists everything that he does not want. He worked for his friend because it was delivered to him on a tray, the opportunity and a condition of living in that situation.</p><p> If he stays here in my town, in the way that he is living, I will leave here, as soon as my obligations are finished. I will go cross country.</p><p></p><p>I will not enable him to undermine me and my own stability. I believe that is why M did not tell me. The minute I feel that he is near me, around me, threatening to come here, I lose my power.</p><p></p><p>I am not afraid of him. He is toxic to me. That is the truth. It is a horrible thing to say.</p><p></p><p>He is my kryptonite. Does that fit? Does kryptonite cause one to lose their power or is it the opposite?</p><p></p><p>Once I wrote to somebody "it was my battle of waterloo" as in a Napoleonic victory and they kindly wrote back that Waterloo was the one battle that Napoleon lost.</p><p></p><p>My son knows what he wants: He wants a free and secure place to stay. He does not want to work. He does not want one other responsibility.</p><p></p><p>Thank you Feeling. I am very discouraged and frightened. </p><p></p><p>Feeling, I hope you are well. Go to bed. I am going right now.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 678794, member: 18958"] He has been connected to adult services and case management in 3 different counties that I know of. He refuses to stay engaged. I brought him to the Department of Rehabilitation. He was indifferent. The very nice worker brought up the possibility that he volunteer at the zoo here. That was almost a year ago. He has never gone back. He did say a couple of weeks ago that that possibility sounded like it could be fun. For a while he was in the county next to mine. They were going to give him a subsidized apartment. He was at the top of the list. He trashed the idea because there were meth addicts in the complex. I will sit down with him and talk to him about his options. What he wants to do. I am sure what he wants to do is either live with me, or live under my umbrella. He gets just over 900 a month. In my town the rents are very cheap. He could get his own apartment for 375 or 400. That would leave enough for food, and other expenses. The county next to mine is more expensive, but not very expensive. He has had help writing a resume, several times. Who knows where it is? He is not motivated to work or to apply for a job. He resists everything that he does not want. He worked for his friend because it was delivered to him on a tray, the opportunity and a condition of living in that situation. If he stays here in my town, in the way that he is living, I will leave here, as soon as my obligations are finished. I will go cross country. I will not enable him to undermine me and my own stability. I believe that is why M did not tell me. The minute I feel that he is near me, around me, threatening to come here, I lose my power. I am not afraid of him. He is toxic to me. That is the truth. It is a horrible thing to say. He is my kryptonite. Does that fit? Does kryptonite cause one to lose their power or is it the opposite? Once I wrote to somebody "it was my battle of waterloo" as in a Napoleonic victory and they kindly wrote back that Waterloo was the one battle that Napoleon lost. My son knows what he wants: He wants a free and secure place to stay. He does not want to work. He does not want one other responsibility. Thank you Feeling. I am very discouraged and frightened. Feeling, I hope you are well. Go to bed. I am going right now. COPA [/QUOTE]
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