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<blockquote data-quote="Mom2oddson" data-source="post: 368251" data-attributes="member: 65"><p>I remember shortly after husband & I were married the 3 kids were getting out of control and I told them to get to their rooms. Didn't yell or anything. easy child yells, "Get out of my way! That's her 'I mean it' voice!" as he goes flying up to his room. Didn't know I had a "mean-it" voice until that day. </p><p></p><p>The really sad part is that kids do need that firm control. There is a part of them that wants it. They'd never admit it, but they do. If I run into my ex's niece she still says Hi Aunt W to me. She is always polite and respectful towards me. I think that has a lot to do with how things were when I watched her. She had very firm rules. Simple things like you can't get a new toy out until the old one is put away. She would fight about it for the first few minutes, but when I didn't give in, she'd go happily along with it. She had no rules with her parents or grandparents. It was only when I watched her that she had boundaries. And the saddest thing was that was when she seems the happiest and most content. </p><p></p><p>And I do believe that true self-esteem isn't given to anyone but discovered through personal growth and accomplishments. It's like the line from <em>The Incredibles</em>, "when everyone is special, then nobody will be special".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mom2oddson, post: 368251, member: 65"] I remember shortly after husband & I were married the 3 kids were getting out of control and I told them to get to their rooms. Didn't yell or anything. easy child yells, "Get out of my way! That's her 'I mean it' voice!" as he goes flying up to his room. Didn't know I had a "mean-it" voice until that day. The really sad part is that kids do need that firm control. There is a part of them that wants it. They'd never admit it, but they do. If I run into my ex's niece she still says Hi Aunt W to me. She is always polite and respectful towards me. I think that has a lot to do with how things were when I watched her. She had very firm rules. Simple things like you can't get a new toy out until the old one is put away. She would fight about it for the first few minutes, but when I didn't give in, she'd go happily along with it. She had no rules with her parents or grandparents. It was only when I watched her that she had boundaries. And the saddest thing was that was when she seems the happiest and most content. And I do believe that true self-esteem isn't given to anyone but discovered through personal growth and accomplishments. It's like the line from [I]The Incredibles[/I], "when everyone is special, then nobody will be special". [/QUOTE]
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